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things unsettled right now with SS 8

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Wed, 07/31/2013 - 9:00pm

SS8 is in a stepdown environment now from the behavioral residential facility he was at. Basically it is a group home DFCS chose. Unfortunately, he seems to be regressing a bit. Its been right at a month. I wonder if he's just testing boundaries or if he is really a kid with severe problems that won't he able to function in the "real world" of our home, a school, with siblings, etc.... FDH is in denial to an extent. When does it not become BM's 100% fault anymore?

antone else have special needs children or stepchildren? im just heRtbroken today

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Sat, 07/20/2013 - 11:24am

So we are visiting SS8 at the group home today and he's just not seeming to progress. I really truly believe now that its not just BM being lazy, abusive or neglectful. BS7 speaks and functions better than this SS8. SS8 doesn't want to do anything that requires trying, he is starting to act like he doesn't know how to tie his shoes, which he does. He just expects everything to be like he sees it on the tv such as trying to play yard baseball or even folding clothes...he talks like a kindergartener. He cannot read a for sale sign.

Finally admitting the painfully obvious out loud...

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 07/16/2013 - 11:37am

FDH and I had a pretty heated discussion last week. I contemplate going to stay with my folks, basically let the house and all of the debt go, and put my life back together for myself and the Bios. The stress over these last two years has been so heavy and I'm so drained. So he says he just has to believe in his heart that things will not always be like this and he has to believe we will be able to have our wedding and start our life...which at this point is just a nice thought. I finally said the one thing I never had:

It has been way too long since I posted...battery charges being thrown out!!!

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Fri, 06/07/2013 - 8:28pm

I see lots of new people on here! Hope everyone is trudging through Planet Stepparents okay. Here is my update. Thought I could do the whole support each other and keep things to ourselves and just love each other, but I need my outlet back!

And the PAS is rampant with SS10 now too...

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 04/23/2013 - 4:26pm

Since SS8s still in state custody and SS10 got to go back to his mom, I've begun to notice a trend that is not to myself or FDHs liking. SS10 was always the laid back easy kid that just didn't give or have many issues. SS8 was the focus of the attention due to his behavioral issues and mom issues. Now BM has only SS10 at home, and since that has happened, he refuses to speak to me unless told to, he refuses to dochores the other kids have to do unless FDH directly tells him. He couldn't even be bothered to thank my family for his Easter treats.

Sick of the double standards

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Sun, 04/21/2013 - 8:55pm

I can't pick just one. Either my kids getting blasted for ignoring me but not a word when SS10 does it, the rule in our house that video games cannot be played without permission first that SS10 also ignored and was not reprimanded for, or perhaps just that SS10 just knows better on everything simply because he's quieter and fast enough to not get busted for his sneaky little behaviors as well.

That is all. Please share yours if you have any.

Things have been so quiet but that will soon come to an end...

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 4:55pm

So since SS10 got sent back to BM because the courts feel that FDH and BM should just go back to the original divorce agreement for parenting and custody, things have been pretty quiet. SS7 now 8 is still in the behavioral facility. The social worker there and therapist have stated that he's doing well but still continues to have trouble when BM visits. There is a meeting about his progress next week then court to decide legally if he comes out of the facility and dfcs custody and two whom.

Stressed about the constant legal and parenting battle between them

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 03/12/2013 - 9:14am

FDH in the 19th month of trying to get custody of his kids...it's constantly being dragged out by something, always. I'm freaking tired of it today.

I've determined that when I bought a house 2 years ago and FDH and I agreed to split everything, something nasty and frustrating happens when you are in a court case.

More time in court =More Money Spent
More time in court, at hospitals for skids, at therapy for skids, at attorney's offices, in whatever classes /therapy/ evals the parents are required to take =Less time at work

Maybe I am overreacting

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Fri, 03/08/2013 - 9:50pm

I believe everyone has things about their spouse that just make them go hmmmm....

I think my hmmmm's got confirmed when FDH freely gave me the copy of his results from the court ordered psych evaluation.

Has anyone else experienced this...and felt a little twinge of "oh damn"????

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