I don't think it's nothing. If my skids came over and completely ignored my existance, I'd be really pissed - thankfully SS isn't that bad but SD was and when DH would call her on it - she got even more pissed and basically walked outside and waited for her BM to come pick her up. She'd call her within moments of getting to our house - BM would just drive around our neighborhood until she got the call and then swoop in and pick up SD - oh well - DH didn't stand up to her and now he has zero relationship with SD.
Now if DH completly ignored my existance - that would be totally different - I think I'd be a widow.

How old is SD?

I don't think you're getting mad over nothing. However, I do think you have to remember that if DH doesn't make any changes, don't expect SD to.

I read your previous blog in which you said she is bipolar. Is she seeing someone and getting help? It sounds like she has a lot of unresolved issues from the events concerning her mom, too, and needs to talk to someone about them.

Yes, she absolutely needs discipline but a lot of what you described sounds like something that can't be solved with discipline alone.

It was forty minutes out of 24 hours. And sounds like you acted like a jealous shrew over 40 minutes. I would put you in the wrong, yes.

I think you had good reason to be upset. Maybe just not good to have the fight right then. Not because he didn't deserve to be called out, because he did, but just because if you have a fight in front of someone they will try to get involved whether it concerns them or not. That's why mommy dearest felt the need to argue and defend her "boy" when really it was none of her damn business. Did your son show up??

why did she have a right to be upset? because her husband did not kiss her? because he did not pay attention to her solely for 40 minutes at a familky gathering and dared to pay attention to his kid for FORTY mins on a holiday?

Really? 40 minutes people...

I agree total ass

You're not crazy! I would be pissed too! I don't know what was in the eggnog this year, but EVERYONE I know and love had a horrible Thanksgiving! H and I had a horrible fight the night before and my sister and her boyfriend fought through Thanksgiving dinner, broke up and then got back together at my house at 3am! The day before Thanksgiving, I had to watch the skids all day and my best guy friend is in town with us until the 1st and I was mortified and pissed beyond belief at the skids behavior. They were horrible little bastards and I was ashamed and embarrassed that they were being so horrible and rude to my old friend. They had just spent four days with BM and boy, you could tell! Inside, I was seething and barely controlling my anger, but as usual, I kept it together and stuck to our usual discipline methods, so nothing was different from the skid's perspective except that they got more time-outs than usual and had a crappy day because of their own behavior. H and a friend of ours agreed to babysit my nephew and the skids so my friend and I could go out for birthday drinks for my sister and when we got home, H was tipsy and got drunk after I got home. He loves beer and micro brews, but tends to drink like a connoisseur and rarely gets more than tipsy and has always been an adorable, sweet drunk on the few times he has gotten drunk, but for some reason he was super cranky and was being a jerk. I ignored it at first, but he got really loud and was on the verge of waking up my nephew and I pulled him aside and told him he needed to keep the noise level down and that he needed to pull himself together and treat me and my friends with respect. We wound up having a really stupid fight over it and my cats (who snuck into our bedroom, which is off limits to them, because they wanted to get away from the noise). He was really rude to me and I lost it and told him that I didn't appreciate watching his children all day, have them be little bastards and embarrass me in front of company. I rarely lose it like that and get really harsh and blunt (I save that for this site!) and I just reamed him! He was stunned and upset and I know he was embarrassed too and part of the problem was that he was just as upset as I was about the skids behavior. They took every opportunity to be rude and nasty to every single person that talked to them and it was horrible because my BFF loves kids and was being really sweet with them and making a huge effort to play with them and draw them out and they were just super nasty and horrible. Some of the worst behavior I have seen in years! It turned out that BM told them that it was okay to be rude to me and my friends and encouraged them so H and I had to have a talk with them about following BMs rules and instructions with her and ours with us. We didn't even go into what BM said because it is just appalling and they know that what she said was rude and immature (SS12 even said that!). We told them that no matter what BM says at her house it has no effect on our rules and that if they listen to her instructions to disobey or be rude at our house the only result will be that THEY will end up in trouble and sitting in time-out and not getting to play any video games! Anyway, H apologized to me in the morning and fully admitted that he was being a jerk and that he was sorry for everything. He also apologized to my BFF, which we both really appreciated.

It's been fantastic to have my BFF here for more reasons than the obvious because he is so great with kids and it was hilarious to see him handle the skids! He is a sweetheart and spends time with his little nieces everyday, but he is also a big, tough Alaskan man and doesn't put up with any crap! He called out the skids on their behavior and they learned very quickly to respect him. They aren't used to adults that see through their manipulations and call them on it and it was great. We have talked about the skids a lot and his take on them is exactly the same as mine!! He picked up on all the dynamics with SS6 and H and the issues with BM and SS12's issues. It's so nice to be validated and have someone else see first hand what I have to deal with on a daily basis. When we put the skids to bed last night, my BFF threw himself down on the couch and said, "I really don't know how you put up with this. You are a superwoman!"

Anyway, this Thanksgiving was a doozy for everyone and I don't know a single person that had a good day. Everyone was really stressed and all the kids were on crazy sugar highs and the only kid that was behaving well was my nephew!

Hopefully Christmas will go better!!! Hang in there and give yourself a break because I would feel the same exact way and I think any girl would!

Well you all can join in the cheer and fun, but from an objective standpoint, it appears this lady threw a temper tantrum because, to quote her, her husband failed to kiss her goodbye when he went into the other room. How is that different than any skid complained about on here who fails who thros a tantrum over not getting their way.

I am all for taking the side of someone rightfully wronged...but I think it is best to look clearly at a situation.

Your son was lost? Why was he not with you? why in the hell if your son was lost were you PHONING your husband from outside the house? wouldn't you, i don't know...go looking for your kid???

It seems to me you manufactured a whole scene to bring the attention back to you. I don;t care if the kid is attila the hun. she came to see her dad for FORTY minutes...and you caused a scene and a half because you did not get a kiss.