Should I by Christmas for my SD16 (AKA lil miss crazy pants)? I didn't by anything last year for her when I did the Christmas shopping. I honestly figured my husband would since SD does no wrong in his eyes, but he didn't by her a thing, nor did he ever say anything to me about buying her anything. Now the time of the year has come up once again and we set a limit to spend on each kid....but no mention of her from him. Of course I'm not gonna bring it up because I don't want nothing to do with her really. Should I go get her something though from him or is that just helping to create the lala land she lives in?

I hate to say this, but I so want her to open her eyes and see the real dad she has. I love my husband very much, but in my opinion he is a very shitty dad. He wants to play daddy with SD16 but doesn't really act like one. In my mind any man is that signs over custody to a complete stranger not once but 3 different times just so SD is not living with him. I asked him once why he done that. He said so he don't have to deal with her. In the back of my head I'm going...you don't want to discipline Ms. Crazy for what she has done, you don't wanna deal with her then why do you fight with me so bad because I get upset because of what she does. Does that make sense to anyone else?

I mean come on....he just doesn't have the ability to be the dad to any kids, not even SS7 and SS8 that live here all the time. I raise them, I discipline them, I feed, shop, cloth, and everything. What he does is make the pay check. I can't even leave the house for some me time because he lets them run wild and do whatever as long as they are not bothering him. I will give him some credit he has improved since we have been married, but only like 50%. I have to ask him to be a part of the discipline and sometimes I get they'll be aight. I'm from the south and very proud of it, but ladies sometimes I wanna slap him up side the head and go you dumb ass redneck....lol! You can say I'm on the bad dad kick with my husband, because lets face it. If he was a real dad then my skids and crazy skid would not be the way they are. I can deal very much with SS's but not the crazy skid. GRRRRRRRRRRR Sorry just needed to vent!