Well the other day I spoke to bm regarding sd starting her period, I wasn't going to worry about what she thought but I brought it up any how...I asked her how she would like me to handle it if she happens to be with us when the big day comes she said "I trust you, just don't get her those huge things, and I don't sugar coat anything" I then asked so have you discussed this with her is she aware of how things work she just responded with "she knows a little bit" SO...I guess I should handle the situation how I see fit, from now on Im done asking her opinion she clearly doesn't have one unless it some how disrupts her life. Okay so I guess I should be thrilled with the fact that she trusts me...hahaha right...I don't understand these bm's, they make mountain's of molehills when it comes to petty shit but when there child is about to experience a mager life change its no big deal....