That is funny my husband and I were just talking about that. I have been with my husband for 9 years and not once have I received a gift or a card for Mother's Day. It is not that we don't get along but just like you her mother and I don't speak. She hates me with the passion. I was thinking earlier as long as I'm with my BIO kids that is all that matters. I wish you the best you have a long road ahead of you. The best advice I can give you is stay close to GOD, that will help you through all the hurts and struggles of SKS and EX.

I wanted for mothers day, last year ( we weren't married yet) he took boys to get me a card. It was very special that they three of them did that, IMO.
I told him that I didn't expect him to do anything because I was afraid the boys would bring up what to do for their mom & she always turns us down. ( like I want to spend my money on her, but the kids see us as a big family & I try & keep it that way) I am having my 3d ultrasound done the day before so we will see what the baby looks like up close & personal. I am so excited to see him I can hardly stand it!!! To me this is a big frivolous treat and is my mothers day gift. Plus DH & I are going to drive up to my parents & bring the pictures & the dvd so my mom can see her grandson.

I think next year it will be different as things will be from all3 boys. Bottom line is that when they are little it is dad's responsibility to bring it up & take the kids to the store. My ss's are 7 & 9, they have to be reminded to pick their clothes up off the floor or not pick your nose :), why would I expect them to buy me a gift on their own. They are kids. JMO.

Do you clean, cook and do all the things a mom does, step or not? then you are not expecting to much...

Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..

I don't think your question means you are expecting too much... Maybe there are issues w/your husband that he is not talking to you about. Ask him if there is anything he would like to share with your or discuss and why he would say such a thing to you. That you didn't mean that you expected a gift this year. I would question him as to why he said that or feels that way. My ss does not give me anything for any holidays or bday. I don't care and don't make a big deal about it. His mother I know brainwashes his mind and turn against me. I basically ignore my ss and his mother for the most part and I don't want to deal with them. I focus on my daughter.

-happy mom

Um, I would like to ask but that should be DH's job to encourage her, take her and provide her with the ability, to teach her that you are just as important in her life, you represent a mother FIGURE in your home... that to me is a low blow statement and a lazy excuse for your DH not to go do a little 15 minute shopping down the card aisle. That is making an excuse for your SD to learn that she doesn't have to respect you. It's the little things like this that are important, not the fact that you need or want or expect some big lavish gift... it's the thought, the thought is what counts. You may not like someone, but still respect their feelings. I'm sorry, hun. That had to be brutal to hear.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! The best I can do is give you a cyber rose...

@~`~,~~~

StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...