draggin' his tail between his legs. I didn't change the locks, but I locked him completely out as we never lock our doors. I also disabled the garage door opener and have since gone and removed the opener from his truck. He now has no key to the house and no opener.

I also told him it was psychologically abusive and I was done with it, that I loved him but I love myself even more. I told him he is cut off unless and until he agrees to genuinely go to counseling. We went last year but he ridiculed the counselor and the process the whole while he complained about us wasting money, which is not relevant as our combined FSA's covered the counseling.

So he has exactly 30 days to find a counselor he likes (b/c when I find them he swears I have the power of persuasion and they like me more than him). 30 days, that is it.

I am going to bed now as I didn't sleep well and I have another day of auditing.

Thanks for all the support and comments. Had you all not pointed out to me what I already knew, i.e., that his behavior is unacceptable, I would never have stood up to him on the issue.

THANK YOU!

Evil Diva