step-grandparent raising children
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Have had step-grandchildren in home 11 years. Girl 16 - no problem. Boy 18 - can be belligerent, verbally abusive, does not want to help around house and often does not want to clean up his own mess. Was suspended from school last year for 3 months. Is senior in HS now. I have to wake him up in the AM, which can be tough if he stayed up most of the night - I took a few slaps last week.
My wife and her daughter (who has her own home) say I am too lenient and am an enabler.
I am afraid to make him too angry, for example by shutting off his phone. He is 6'1" compared to my 5'7 and is strong as an ox.
I don't know if I can put him out of the house if my wife doesn't want him on the streets.
father died '99 mom on drugs
father died '99 mom on drugs (clean 6 yrs now) we've had the kids 11 yrs, legal guardians in '03
This boy is an adult and if
This boy is an adult and if he's slapping you (or anyone else in your home) for ANY reason, there needs to be stiff consequences for that. Or, he leaves the home. Blatant disrespect! You're afraid of this man????? WHY ON EARTH are you allowing him to do this to you?
Worried that he would attack
Worried that he would attack his grandmother .... thinking he would harm us or destroy the home if he was put out. GM does not want to do anything until he (maybe) gets his survivor's social security back - lost it when suspended from school.
Many counties or states have
Many counties or states have senior or elder abuse departments which have the specialized knowledge and resources to help people like you.
I would not have him in the house after being hit and that would be the end of the subject. I don't care if he sleeps in the street.
I know this post is a week
I know this post is a week old but I had to comment anyway.
OP- You've had this boy since he was seven years old. When he was smaller than you was the time to make him respect you. It sounds like your wife and daughter were right when they said you were too lenient and an enabler and now you're paying the price for it.
If he hits you again call the cops on him, have him arrested and file a restraining order against him. I just hope you have the back bone to do it.