As I have said on your other post you have a BM problem not a skid problem. The BM is a disney mom and doesn't want to instill structure or teach her own kids responsibility or respect. You need to put your foot down and tell your spouse how you feel and if she won't budge then it won't work. My DH is a disney dad but is slowly learning because I told him that I was leaving him if he didn't step up and parent his brats.
I agree with you. BM does not want to instill ethics or structure into her kids and I do. They both do very well academically but without structure I am afraid they will fail socially and in life and expect everythng to be handed to them.
You model it. But it might not work. You're not the parent; they probably won't listen to you if their mother isn't trying to teach them integrity and respect and isn't displaying it herself. Why would you want to be with a woman who does not want to instill ethics or structure into her kids, especially when she knows it is important to you?
BM does have integrity and respect, thats why I am with her. When the BD abandoned her she took up two jobs and was trying to get a third to support her kids. Thats Integrity. She has empathy for everyone, sometimes too much. But when it comes to her kids she takes a lax role and so shyt happens.
If she knows that this is important to you and affects your day to day life and she is still unwilling to even try to teach her children to be good human beings with integrity and respect, then I would submit that she is not being very respectful of you and your feelings. It's great that she's hardworking and has empathy for everyone, but what about YOU? This is important to YOU and she is falling down on the job.
So maybe I am not a monster for sticking up for what I believe in and askng her and the Skids to simply pick up and be respectful. Am I a monster for shoulting at them when they are disrespectful? BM is making me feel like I am.
As I said in another of your threads... you are an equity life partner in your marriage and that makes you an equity parent to any children in your marital home regardless of kid biology.
So set the standards of behavior for your home and enforce those standards with age appropriate increasingly unpleasant consequences until you force compliance from the toxic spawn you allow to live in your home.
If your DW doesn't like how you parent and discipline then she can step up and get it done before you have to. Lather, rinse, repeat until you force compliance.
As I have said on your other
As I have said on your other post you have a BM problem not a skid problem. The BM is a disney mom and doesn't want to instill structure or teach her own kids responsibility or respect. You need to put your foot down and tell your spouse how you feel and if she won't budge then it won't work. My DH is a disney dad but is slowly learning because I told him that I was leaving him if he didn't step up and parent his brats.
Instilling Structure
I agree with you. BM does not want to instill ethics or structure into her kids and I do. They both do very well academically but without structure I am afraid they will fail socially and in life and expect everythng to be handed to them.
You model it. But it might
You model it. But it might not work. You're not the parent; they probably won't listen to you if their mother isn't trying to teach them integrity and respect and isn't displaying it herself. Why would you want to be with a woman who does not want to instill ethics or structure into her kids, especially when she knows it is important to you?
Modeling it
BM does have integrity and respect, thats why I am with her. When the BD abandoned her she took up two jobs and was trying to get a third to support her kids. Thats Integrity. She has empathy for everyone, sometimes too much. But when it comes to her kids she takes a lax role and so shyt happens.
If she knows that this is
If she knows that this is important to you and affects your day to day life and she is still unwilling to even try to teach her children to be good human beings with integrity and respect, then I would submit that she is not being very respectful of you and your feelings. It's great that she's hardworking and has empathy for everyone, but what about YOU? This is important to YOU and she is falling down on the job.
I agree with ndc your well
I agree with ndc your well being and feelings matter as well not just BM and the skids.
Am I a monster
So maybe I am not a monster for sticking up for what I believe in and askng her and the Skids to simply pick up and be respectful. Am I a monster for shoulting at them when they are disrespectful? BM is making me feel like I am.
As I said in another of your
As I said in another of your threads... you are an equity life partner in your marriage and that makes you an equity parent to any children in your marital home regardless of kid biology.
So set the standards of behavior for your home and enforce those standards with age appropriate increasingly unpleasant consequences until you force compliance from the toxic spawn you allow to live in your home.
If your DW doesn't like how you parent and discipline then she can step up and get it done before you have to. Lather, rinse, repeat until you force compliance.
All IMHO and experience of course.
Good luck.