crazy ex wife
:O first of all I apologize, I do not know the acronyms used in this blog yet, but I will learn. Now, my husband has an ex wife who is a control freak in so many different ways. They have 3 children together, every weekend they go back to her from here, she either calls my husband or sends emails about anything and everything that goes on here, as if he does not know how to parent his own children. Is there anything at all we can do to get her to stop? What can he say to her and be civil? He tries to avoid her emails but when he calls to talk to the kids, she belittles him on the phone and nags and nags and won't let him talk to the kids until she is finished. She is remarried, she refers to her new husband as their "daddy". I try to be the best step parent I can be and the best wife I can be to my husband, and it is very hard to keep quiet sometimes. My step kids love me, and when she sees them getting close to me, she does whatever she can to come in between us, I don't know what to do??
We have the same thing going
We have the same thing going on here. She texts constantly. Calls at 6AM. Then whenever we have real parenting issues (developmental delays, for instance) she has nothing to say and completely ignores our emails.
FDH recently informed her that he does not want to talk to her at all except text (in case of emergencies) or email. It's been a huge relief. And I think that's about as good as it gets. Cutting off all communication won't work out as the judge will not see it as "best for the children." However, there's no reason she can't limit it to emails . . . which are pretty easy to ignore.
Good luck
Thank you. the only problem
Thank you. the only problem is, he calls his kids everynight to tell them goodnight and she gets on the phone and won't let him talk to them UNTIL he hears her out. And its practically EVERY weekend they are here. It just gets old and frustrating. sd4 is having to get every single tooth of hers capped with the silver caps, she is in her bm's custody, but if he were to say something to her about that, it would somehow be dh's fault. If they get sick after being here, even if its a week later, its Dh's fault.. it never ever ends. I would just like to know the magical words to tell her that would get her to stoppppp
Omg have them capped w the
Omg have them capped w the white amalgam. Don't put that child through having a mouthful of silver. It's what, $20 more per tooth!!!!????
Honestly, I don't know.
Honestly, I don't know. Neither of my kids have had to undergo any of that, so I don't know anything about it. I know that BM2 told my DH that SD4 has to be put to sleep to get it done
Its not his decision at all, its BM2's. She pretty much doesn't let him have any say so what so ever in anything.
Thank you. My DH gets them
Thank you. My DH gets them every other weekend, and yes they do have their own toothbrushes here, and the older kids brush their own teeth, but I brush my SD4's teeth as well as my DS6's teeth. But that is only every other weekend for my SD4, I brush theirs because they are little, to make sure they get cleaned. MY DS6 has no cavities, was actually at the dentist today with my bio kids. the things BM2 does, example, leaving SD4 at home alone in the mornings while she takes SS's to school, letting them ride their 4 wheeler without helmets, (my husband is a state trooper and has seen sooo many youth 4wheeler wrecks that have resulted in death, and no helmets were wore in most cases.. the list could go on and on, but if we let the kids stay up past 10 on the first night we get them because we hadn't seen them for 2 weeks, then we are horrible parents, if they get sick when they get home, its my DH's fault., she blames him for everythinggggg its unreal. but if he dares say something to her, then he "doesn't know what its like to be a full time parent"
We never know when she is
We never know when she is leaving her while she takes SS's to school. They live 3 1/2 hours away from us. My SD4 has told me on 2 different occasions that her BM left her, she doesn't say it to be telling on her, she just tells a story of like "one time mommy took ___________ & _________ to school and I woke up and I got scared and peed in the floor but I cleaned it up with a towel. And that was because my puppy had peed in the floor and I was cleaning it up with a towel that she told that. When I told my DH about it and he asked BM2 about it, she turned it around on him saying he didn't know what it was like to be a full time parent and she didn't have to explain anything to him.
My DH only gets his kids
My DH only gets his kids every other weekend. She moves them 3 1/2 hours away. and he calls them everynight to tell them goodnight because its not the kids' fault that their parents arent together anymore. And when she does answer the phone, she won't give the kids the phone until she has said everything she needs to gripe about.
I am sorta happy that I'm not
I am sorta happy that I'm not the only one in the world that deals with a crazy BM, and then i'm sad for all of you too.
at least you guys can pick up
at least you guys can pick up the phone and call your kids..my husband doesn't have thier home number or adress (although we have looked up the adress), is not allowed to call the house to speak to his kids because last time he did..she told the courts he was harassing her. the kids have a cell phone that she continues to "lose" or take the charges and "lose" them too. and all this was reviewed by a judge and allowed...so unles the kids call him..he doesn't hear from them and has no way of getting a hold of them. he only receives emails from BM via one of her family members..and everything that he responds goes back through the fam..who review the email and edit it to protect her...can you say "nightmare"...