When the Bio Mom sucks
Sorry, this is my first time on this site. Just wondering if anyone has kept up with Teen Mom 2 this Season and saw how everyone is bashing Miranda the good Step Mom? Leah is a pill-addicted train wreck yet people keep giving excuses for her.
I kinda feel like that's how it is in my Life, too.
Here's what my Stepsons Bio Mom is like:
-Dating a drug dealer and gets into HUGE physical altercations with her bf in front of the Stepsons (shes been in and out of jail for that, too. Child services keeps trying to reunificate her and the kids, that's the only reason they still see her)
-Ditches the kids..For instance she'll say she'll be there in 10 minutes to pick them up when they want to see her and she doesn't show up.
-Trashes me to the kids and tells them to refer to me as "ugly whore"
-Fights with us CONSTANTLY over child support...She feels like she's entitled to it even though WE have full physical and sole custody of the boys because child services deemed her unfit.
-She throws parties in her garage with her druggie friends and gets drunk and does weed, the boys call us shaken up because fights break out when bio mom is drinking.
-Drops them off without notice..For instance my Fiance and I had a wedding to go to on a Saturday..She wanted them for the weekend so we kept our plans, as we're walking out the door, we see the boys walking up our driveway. Apparently their Mom heard about a party going on and wanted to go instead of hanging out with them so she dropped them off and didnt even make sure we were home to get them.
-Takes the kids as late as possible so there's almost no point in them even going. She'll tell us she wants the kids on a Monday at 2pm...She won't come get them 'til 8pm and their bedtime is at 9pm.
Etc.
The kids tell us when they're with her she doesn't even spend time with them. She has no job. If I'm honest, though...Her and I don't get along at all because when I first started dating my Husband, she would call his phone to scream at him for being with me..(even though they got divorced 10 years ago because she kept screwing all his friends and lying about paternity for 2 of "his" kids, long story...She's a psycho!)
Anyways, I forgot the point I was making for this forum, just frustrated. Anyone else dealing with this nonsense? Does it EVER get better?
Yes someone else is dealing
Yes someone else is dealing with it...ME! Can't promise it gets better, but there are times of peace!
For seven years BM has been in & out of rehabs..."getting back on her feet", excuse after excuse (death in the family or sicknesses) as to why she can't get them on her weekend then we find out she's been partying all weekend or for a while she was stupid enough to put pics on social media & SD14 saw them and eventually called her out on that, I'm helping raise SD14 to be honest & to speak-up when necessary.
Times of peace: when she can't hold a job & people get tired of supporting her...she has no way to get the skids so she just disappears for a few months. Or even better, when she isn't paying the court-ordered CS she eventually gets arrested and has to stay until someone pays enough of the arrears to bail her out ----> that's a Win/Win for us!
You have to be extremely dedicated to your DH & you both have to be on the same page, otherwise it's the simplest situation for a SM to just walk away from...believe me I thought about it plenty of times!
So First time on here and
So First time on here and this is my first time dealing with this kind of situation. I can't believe the things all of you go threw.
I'm a mother of 2 kids I am so proud of and they mean everything to me. My Daughter is 19 and my son is 16. Being their mom is the most important thing in my life.
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we live together and I have known him since I was 13 (he was my very first boyfriend). I met his 11 year old daughter (now 12) almost 7 months ago. At first it took her a couple days but she loved me and I her. I could tell she was missing out on that mommy kind of love. I felt like I already knew her because her dad always talked about her. BUT at the same time she met me, the ex wife found out about me.
A little about her... He met her in a rehab center where he was for a DUI and she was for METH! But she is a good manipulator she gave him some bullshit story and she also had a 4 year old son she said she had joint custody of (she didn't). So to make a really long story short she got pregnant then they got married... a she really didn't take to their daughter when she was born or ever... And after a few years she started sleeping with her husbands friends, then moved out and started a new life but then wanted him back then didn't want him cheated again then wanted him again. Pretty much every time he started to move on with his life or she felt needy or lonely she wanted him back. She had filed for divorce but kept dragging it out, over 4 years almost when I started dating him it had already been over 2 years in to the divorce. When she found out about me she was so pissed that she did everything she could to bad mouth me to my boyfriend and started telling him she was still in love with him and he was her soul mate, also tried the (you never really loved me) just so she could get him to talk about when they were together and she has been with a guy for over 2 years living with him ( she cheated on him with my boyfriend before I was around). After she found out her daughter liked me and she wasn't getting anywhere with my boyfriend she told us we could have her. But I think she thought that would turn out different. We were all happy and her daughter didn't want to go home. So she filed papers saying he was in violation of the PP. Didn't give him the correct paper work with the date so that he wouldn't show and be in contempt. And after we fixed that she started her campaign to alienate me from her ex's and daughters life. she has told the most horrific lies about me and drills her daughter about what we do every time she comes over so she can twist everything I do into me trying come between her and her dad or that I just secretly wish her harm. She even contacted my ex, who isn't over me so they could cause more drama she gets info from him that's not true and she tells him things about what I do with her daughter so he can twist it and try to hurt my kids!
Just last night I helped my BF daughter with her homework (her mom thinks at 12 she shouldn't have to keep up on how her child is doing in school anymore)the poor girl is so far behind and doesn't have the basics down (Her mom doesn't have the basics down for being a mom either)she missed a step in her homework and that turned in to I am try to make fail. Now it is to a point where I'm nice while she's mean to me and lies to her dad trying to get him mad at me and she tells him all the time me or her!?
I don't know what to do!!!