A bit of background: I have three children from previous marriage. He has one son from BM and his Stepson from BM (not his) and we have one son together. His step son from BM16 he has tried to maintain a relationship with..but BM offered him bribes to not go to see his Dad or had him text the entire time he`s in my home what we are doing or saying. I put a stop to that told DH that it`s our home we shouldn`t have to be feeling like she`s here or getting texts from her asking why we did this or said that. Needless to say...SS16 won`t have anything to do with DH now for 2 years....but BM still gets childsupport from us..the kicker..it`s not DH`s son! Whatever. his son (my SS8) is a terror from hell. BM used to tell him to say things to me like...you should be flushed in a toilet...or my Mom wishes you were dead. or tell him to be really bad at Dad`s and she`ll reward him.

Anyways...when he said his crap I told myself ...it`s not him..its BM...and ignored it. Now...we`ve dealt with the constant...and Im not kidding constant lying...disgusting habits of picking his nose and wiping it ALL over my home...or eating it. Breaking my son`s things and general rudeness. I backed off...let DH try to handle it. Sigh. Constant stress every second weekend when I knew he was coming (plus 3 nights a week).
He trips my baby..laughs when he gets hurt. Scary..I won`t leave them alone EVER in a room together..DH thinks I`m crazy...his angel would never hurt him.

Now....SS8 started lying about some really serious things because he realized BM does the oh...poor baby and buys him shit. So we`ve been accused of tying him up in his bed...making him sit and watch us eat but not feed him. I`m so mad,hurt,upset. It got to the point of DH telling him if he doesn`t stop he won`t be allowed over anymore and SS8 would cry...say he`s sorry...go home and tell his mom more lies.

Now...BM went to my MIL and told her we were doing this...and they sided with crazy BM (who by the way they still party with). And SS8 is not allowed in our home. So he could see his son but just not in our home. Whatever...but the funny thing is ...we went to a hotel,waterpark last weekend and they are mad we didn't bring him. Dh finally just lost it...said so I`m not good enough to see my Son in my home with my Family but if it means a free vacation...take him...doesn`t work that way. SS8 cried and told them he was lying...they said we told him to say it.

How much drama and crazy can one family take!!! His family parties with Bm...talks to her more than their own son..Sends invites to DH and SS8 only...does not include my kids or our son (who is their bio grandson too).
I`m glad DH finally sees the crazy refuses to go when his family does that and sees the real kid I've been seeing....but it just never ends.