I dont even hide it anymore...it's no secret that I hate when SS8 is here.
This kid and his messed up Mom has pushed me to the edge and I'm done.
He has lied about DH and I mistreating him when he sleeps over so he can get rewarded by BM...
We told him he needs to stop lying before he ends up not being allowed here anymore(please GOD). Nope...told us he would stop...then keeps doing it.
So BM went to DH's family and said that we are abusive..his family didn't think to talk to us at all....just went by what she said because she is thier drinking buddy.
So they decided that he wasn't allowed here anymore.
So for a while DH did his visitation elsewhere..didn't fight them...stand up for us...nothing. Said he didn't want to get screamed at by his family if he went against them.(Momma's boy).
But slowly SS8 started coming here for a few hours if BM needed to go out...nice. So now, he wants to sleep over...DH and I got into a huge fight...I said HELL NO....I will not be accused of abuse...I have my kids to consider...I have custody of my 3 from my ex...and DH and I have one together. Anyways...when it comes down to it...I own this house...not him. I told him SS8 can come over during the day SAT/SUN when it's his weekend but no sleepovers. I don't trust him...he lies, sneeks around...caught him smiling everytime my 2 year old falls or hurts himself...there's something wrong with him.
So...I dissappear with my kids on SS weekends for the most part...if he's inside we go for a walk..if he's outside we are inside...I avoid bieng around him at all...he's not allowed to be left alone in a room with me or my 2 year old son because I just can't risk anything he lies about or does to my son. I have outright told my DH to not even try to have sex on the days SS is here because I loose all respect for DH because of how he acts to me and our son. The sun shines on SS8's butt....nobody else exists..I hate it....anyone else in this situation?
"caught him smiling everytime
"caught him smiling everytime my 2 year old falls or hurts himself."
That's... uh...
Well, shit, I was going to say, "That's not normal," but after a few days here, I'm honestly not sure anymore what qualifies as "normal" for some of these little monsters.
Well, my situation has
Well, my situation has mellowed out from that recently, but yeah - I have no problem admitting that I hate it when skidly is here. I do. And he should be here in about 3 hours, and it makes me want to vomit.
Lately, I've hated it when
Lately, I've hated it when SD11 comes over. She's just a bottomless pit who feels entitled to everything within 100 feet of her.
And just today, my hatred was justified when she actually HURT BS8 and a friend of his who he had over for a playdate!
She says she's "never coming over again!" Well, I hope she stays true to her word!
My SS is a constant trip down
My SS is a constant trip down memory lane...a/k/a times that dood wouldn't have any inkling about. A non-stop chorus of "Dad do you remember the time when...."? My personal favorite about reminiscing of days of youth? "Dad do you remember the day I was born".
"Why yes, son. I was getting drunk in a bar that very day, ended up in a brawl and slept it off in jail". Just jokin' of course, but holy shit - shut up already.
I spent the first year like
I spent the first year like this: he would walk into my home..where I had dinner cooking for him and I would say hi...and he would say...My Mom said you should die...or my Mom said you should be flushed down the toilet..or my Mom said that you won't let my Dad love her anymore...really???? Second year...kicking/hitting me and my kids...to last few years...lying, blaming my 11 year old for crap he did and got busted doing, picking his nose until it bleeds and wiping it all over my home, furniture, cars..gross, lying and telling his Mom that we abuse him and won't feed him and tie him to his bed. I'm just done...control your kids. I have 4 children to deal with of my home...I just wish the one SS8 wasnt more drama than all of them put together.
Now my only concern is my children and not dealing with all that...I'm done. I do my own thing but I HATE HATE HATE when he's here because DH acts different to everyone and treats him like the golden child. Argues with me that he has grown up and is a good kid..I call BS and I'm not willing to bet my family on him.
For once...stand up to your ex...stand up to your family and defend me...is that too much to ask?
(((Hugs))) I'm in a similar
(((Hugs))) I'm in a similar situation. I have recently put a stop to babysitting SD5 for SO when he works. She is a spoiled brat!!! SO is aware of it, we have spent months and months discussing her behaviors, rules and boundaries etc, he kept promising to do better, but it was always only me sticking to our house rules (which were done up by myself, SO and all 4 kids in the house). SD was running off to her room every time I told her off.. I sensed it coming, I feel it in my bones and know it's only a matter of time before BM accuses me of abuse. (just this morning actually, SD said "My mum said you're a really mean person".)
I am NOT willing to put myself in that position, so I've told SO, I don't care how much of a hassle it is for him to make other arrangements, like you, I too will NOT BE ALONE with, nor responsible for his kid.
I don't understand why SO has let it come to this, to me it seems obvious that the easier and better path that will lead to long term success for his daughter, is to parent better and stand up to his ex... but he's such a weakling. Bleh. Men!!
SO sent BM a text asking why
SO sent BM a text asking why SD is saying that (meeting with lawyer soon, SO knows he has to try and sort any issues out before court stuff, works out better then letting BM pile up a list of 'what we do wrong')
BM said "SD was upset that no one at school likes her and said that Tarsh said it's because she's bossy".
So that's why I'm "mean".
SD IS bossy and kids DO avoid her because of it. And yup, I did tell SD that, I wasn't mean about it though, SD and I had a thoughtful assessment of all the reasons kids might not be playing with her at school.
Gah. Makes me not want to speak a word to SD AT ALL. ETA: although I am VERY tempted to say the C U Next Tuesday thing
}:)
Omg is it wrong that I feel
Omg is it wrong that I feel better knowing that I am not the only one suffering? My so just told me that his kids don't want to be here because he isn't getting along with their Mom. Is he really dumb enough to believe that??? His kids don't want to be here because they are lazy dirty disrespectful and manipulative and he finally set some boundaries. So what do they do to manipulate and try to get their way they say they don't want to come over. How could such an intelligent man believe something so stupid?