So I was turned on to these online forums a few weeks ago because I'm a young mother with two jobs and no friends! I am very happy in my relationship. My boyfriend is a gift from god and he has been around since my daughter was aroun 4 months old and shes 2 now. He isn't "dad" to her my legal husband/baby daddy is still in the picture and we all get along for most part, aside from the occasional bickering we all have respect for each other. WELL the story is a little bit different when it comes to my boyfriends "baby momma" and 7 year old daughter. I'll start by saying the BM is a wretched, miserable, jealous, manipulative......... UGHHH I have choice words that I just won't say! And NO I did not come between her family. They were split up for years before I came into the picture. ANYHOW as far as my boyfriends daughter is concerned she is soooo annoying! Not exactly bad but she doesn't act rite. She is a bossy know it all. She undermines me and tries to boss around my daughter. When she comes over (every other weekend and sometimes for a few hours during he week) my house is chaos. She doesn't listen to me at all! She just laughs at me when I tell her to stop doing something. Or I hear " oh no it's ok I'm aloud to do this at my house." we'll I'll say well not in this house because your making he baby think she is aloud to do it to. My daughter has cought a few of her bad behaviors and it bothers the crap out of me! She will talk about my house and how it's not as nice as hers (she lives with her rich grandparents. Her mother was living in their basement up until a month or two ago) she will roll her eyes at the cloths I wear, the music I listen to. I understand she is just an opinionated little girl which is normal. But she takes it to another level sometimes. She is just rude. The 7 year old STILL when she goes #2 needs to be wiped with baby wipes! She doesn't listen to me OR her father and she feels entitled to everything. Now one of my biggest problems is my boyfriend is blind to all of rhese behaviors. He doesn't see how disrespectful she is and he blows it off because she's a little girl. He says she will grow out of it but in the last 2 years it has only gotten worse. She will set up my daughter and then tatle on a situation she manipulated!!! Sometimes when she comes over I make excuses to be in another room or doing something else. Today for the first time I told my boyfriend that his baby gets on my nerves and boy was that hard! Especially because he treats my daughter almost like his own and doesn't favor either one when they are both together. Him and I both grew up with nasty step parents who made us uncomfortable so were extremely conscious about the way we treat each others children. Today I hit a breaking point though and let him know my feelings towards his daughter and I could tell that was hard for him to hear. We talk about marriage and children of our own one day and now he is questioning me. I'm not woman enough for his baggage maybe! That's how he made it sound. I want to like this kid but she is SUCH a brat. She remindes me of her mother sometimes and it just makes me cringe. I'm not questioning my relationship I WILL make things work I just need advise on how to manage this not so perfect blended family.