DH called this morning to tell me that he loves me & just wants me to be happy & that no matter what, he is going to be here for baby Shiloh. Also says he doesn't want a divorce. neither do I. But right now, i can't live with his daughter. SD doesn't care about being a family or the fact that a baby is on the way. SD is selfish & the only thing that matters to her is her boyfriend, nothing else, not school, not her future, just the boyfriend. i wish my DH would just let her go move in with the boyfriend full time, let the relationship run it's course, let them "play house", let it crash & burn. Let her find out sooner. Push her out there in the world & get it over with, let her get used & abused by this boyfriend. Allowing them to live w/eachother would just speed up the process. Or she should just stay w/her grandmother, & she can wipe her bottom for her for another 17 yrs.
I don't know what is going to happen. I think DH should live w/his mother & daughter & visit me & baby on the weekends. That's really what I think we should do, until he can have the opportunity to compare & contrast a REAL baby to an overgrown 17 yr old baby & maybe he will see at that point, just what a mess SD really is, when he has to pick & choose every night between the REAL baby that needs him & the overgrown baby that just uses him as an ATM, the real baby who will be waving bye! bye! Daddy! when he walks out the door or the 17 yr old baby who's gone every weekend from Thursday to Tuesday w/the boyfriend. who is he going to be spending his weekends with? Will he realize that the REAL baby will probably be more understanding when he choses to walk out the door to the 17 yr old baby? Will he see that his baby daughter won't be complaining or whining like the 17 yr old baby? will he notice that his INFANT daughter will be more mature, even in her infant stages & less of a pain in the ass than the 17 yr old baby? Soon he will know what it is to be torn in two different directions, by someone who is unreasonable & someone who actually needs him & who actually is helpless. Me, i'll be fine, i have my God, I have my family, I have my two daughters who have already agreed to help out w/the baby. Oldest daughter will be going to college at night & taking care of baby sister by day. She's 21, responsible & mature, been mature about this entire situation & helped me raise her 11 yr old little sister. Together, we did a great job because she is a thriving, happy, 11 yr old! DH is the one who is going to have to live w/the monster, or choose whether or not he wants to live w/the monster that he created. It will be interesting to see.