Open House?
So, if today hasn't been stressful enough with my dad being in surgery for a infection in his lung/chest cavity I get to deal with BM...yay -rolls eyes-
Many of you read I believe it was last week me posting that BM called the cops for me responding a one word response to her and her being upset because I helped SS give his teacher a gift - this resulted in her telling the cops if I contacted her she was planning on pressing charges against me.
Well, I found it was open house tonight and told DH - he did not communicate anything to BM about it as she should have received the note and he didn't want issues....well he asked yesterday if he was picking SS5 up from school if she wanted to follow the court ordered 6pm swap her response "I volunteered last minute to work the PTO booth at open house to be involved so you can pick him up from school" which means I get to deal with BM.
Part of me doesn't know which would be worse sitting with my stepmom and my grandma in a waiting room which would drive me nuts as I cannot stand hospitals they just creep me out, or seeing BM sucking up to the school/teachers because of the whole incident and not being able to say a word - typically I don't say anything to her except for maybe "hi" but now knowing I feel like I am going to be put in a situation of wanting to call her out I feel like will make keeping my mouth shut hard.
I expressed to DH I didn't want to go because of all of the other stresses in my life right now. He asked if I please would as if I didn't feel restricted I would, and it seems the teacher was still cordial with me when I took SS lunch and he wishes for them to know I am still around and for BM to see that I am pushed out of the picture as I still want to be a valid part of SS's life I don't want to let her 'bitchy-ness' of entitlement to control a situation affect the relationship SS and I have.
I am going to go but am just stressed, and hope that BM doesn't try to pull some additional shit luckily cops will already be on campus I guess.
Just go for the skid, smile,
Just go for the skid, smile, be polite, be a classy lady and interact with the teachers , share your input on SS school work, grades etc and go home. Don't engage BM at ALL. Smile and be polite. You will come across as the classy adult and she will not.
I went and smiled - I held
I went and smiled - I held DHs hand 90% of the time and just smiled I don't think I even looked at BMs face as after we left DH made a comment about her make up looking trashy and all I remember is thinking when she is going to learn "scrunched" hair is not in style. I was trying to focus on SS until she took over and then just started looking at the other kids.
We got there and BM was waiting apparently she didn't have to do the booth until the later half. She grabbed SS and said something I don't know what but about half way down the hall SS turned his head around and gave the "be jealous" smirk DH asked why he looked back to me and I told him that was the look I tell him SS gives like when they are on the couch and I'm busy or he tried to sit in between us.
We tried to move on however we got to the classroom and SS was all about showing BM stuff - DH asked to see something and was ignored so he made small chat with the teacher and I just smiled. DH then went back over to SS's desk again and asked to see something again BM picked everything up and told SS she loved him and just walked away.
This pissed him off - as we were leaving the PTO staff was asking for email addresses so that they can keep parents informed DH handed me the paper to put info on as my handwriting is nicer and what do you know BM walks up and said to SS "oh I get to say goodbye to you again I miss you so much and love you" um we got him today after school it's not like he's been in our care for more than 3 hours tops.
To top it all off a girl DH went to school with walked up and said hey to DH she kind of put her hand on him like she was going to pat him which is fine but then went in for a full hug with like hands overlapping and when she stopped hugging him told him "You're getting a little round aren't you" DH just said "Im happy" and we walked away - DH has gained a little weight but a lot of it is muscle as he works offshore he can't really just be lazy and get "fat" also we eat 95% healthy and he does the same at work.
I just really felt bad for DH.