You and I think a like. I want to have children with my BF someday and I get angry thinking about the SS8 around MY child (that wasn't even concieved), and sharing my BF (future DH)with another woman's child. I too wish the kid wasn't in the picture too and I'm afraid I'm going to get worse when I'll have my own children as I will become even more territorial and protective.

i feel the same way! youre not alone. we only see the kid for the summer. and thats enough. when my husband and i were just dating i kinda liked the kid. he didnt come for awhile since he lives in another state but when he did i was giving birth to our son, and i just had all this hatred towards him. everything changed when i had my son. he wasnt as annoying as he is now, and he was cuter..lol. what killed me was how my husband and his family always compared my son to him. he doesnt even look like my husband, you wouldnt even know it was his son. he looks just like his mother! that really pissed me off. i dont want him to be around ever either. his name makes me cringe. i tried and tried. but if its not there, its not there. what can you do? you dont have to love them. im not gonna be mean but im not gonna pretend that there is all this love when there clearly isnt. i dont even want him to touch me. i just think outta sight outta mind. if hes not under our roof i dont want to hear about him, or i dont ask about him. i could care less. and yeah we knew they had kids when we met them, but when we met them the kid didnt visit every summer. and i married him because i loved him not his son. we dated for over a year before he brought his son around. not because he didnt want me to meet him but because he didnt come to texas. she wouldnt bring him and my husband who was my boyfriend at the time couldnt afford to get him. now that we started our little family all of a sudden its mandatory that he comes every damn summer. ugh.

so unfortunatley they cant go away. but we always have this place to come and vent and not feel alone when we are thinking all these mean crazy thoughts!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE. haha. hang in there.

You are not alone!! You cant help how you feel. I cant stand my ss9!!! I hate even saying that he is MY ss!! I usually say my DH kid. The PITA is here for the WHOLE summer & I totally resent him for that. To top it all off his dumbass BM chose not to send his ADHD meds that we paid for! I pushed & pushed for DH to get the paternity test & when he finally got it, I prayed & prayed that it would come back as negative!!!! I HATE coming home from working all day & going to school until 10pm just to see his grubby little face watching TV in the living room or even playing video games. I refuse to go on the pick up/drop off meetings, the less I see of that dumbass hillbilly BM the better. If you werent prego I would advise you to invest in a huge bottle of vodka/rum/tequila. I guess you could always go for Ben & Jerrys!!! Good Luck & remember we are all a mouse click away!!!

This is EXACTLY how I feel! I am 9 months pregnant about to give birth any day now and all I can think about is how f*cking annoying it's going to be when SS comes over every other weekend (or whenever dumb & dumber DH & BM decide is a good time). If anyone compares my son to that little brat I don't know how I will prevent myself from going off on them about it, especially because SS has his BMs huge fat cheeks and looks nothing like DH on top of the fact that neither of them actually parent the kid and he is not taught manners or right from wrong and gets everything he wants. It's disgusting. I will at least do myself and my child a favor by not letting him grow up to think the f*cking world revolves around him and he can act out however he pleases. I can't wait until the day it's so blatantly obvious that my son is so much more behaved and respectful than SS will ever be.

I especially cringe when people refer to my baby as his "brother". Ugh. I can already see him acting out because he wants to be the center of attention and even doing something to hurt the baby because he already hits people and hits our animals. Let me tell you how fast I will flip if anything like that EVER happens! I just wish DH would at least grow up and actually act like a parent instead of enabling his devil spawn to just terrorize the house.