DO I love my husband enough? starting to ? myself
I always said I didnt believe in divorce, and I dont. We have our own baby on the way, and Im super excited about that. But daily we struggle with my BD and him getting along, then I HATE it when his son comes here. Obviously we dont like each others kids. I have good reason in my opinion since i caught the little prick in the closet with my 3yo daughter his very first visit with his pants down, wee wee out and trying to take off her dress. he had told her they were playing a "bad game" and not to tell me. needless to say, i hate him now. i think he's a sneaky little manipulative ass and his dad never even punished him. i think that still upsets me that there was no punishment there. its been months since then, but i just cant seem to get over it. now with summer here he is wanting him to come stay a whole week here, and even though its planned for when my girl is at her dads, i dont feel like the little brat being in my house, me having to cook for him, clean up after him, babysit him? i dont think so. that thought makes me want to puke in my mouth.
This prolly sounds all harsh and all but man i just wish my hubby would order and take that dna test! he dsnt even know if thats his kid and admits to me that he never had it done cuz he's scared of the outcome as the kid doesnt resemble him AT ALL,, he met and screwed bm at a party when they were drunk and i made him realize theres no way he was the only one that she had done that with since obviously she was a big slutzky. point is, idk if i can keep this up, its ruining my marriage and i hate feeling this way. i really do. my hubby and i fight about it everytime it gets to be his weekend to come, the bm doesnt do any of the driving at all, so its 2 hours both way, and it just interfers with our life too much. id rather NOT do it anymore honestly, but i dont wanna lose my husband. only wish this kid and this whole problem would go away.
and dont give me the whole "u shoulda thought of that before you got married" cuz honestly he didnt ever even get his son until after we were married. and now, its like "oh lets all be this big happy family" all of a sudden! what the crap gives?!
end of rant.
No way would this child be in
No way would this child be in my home with my younger child(ren). Without them there, maybe, but unless dad pulled his head out of his butt and agreed to get the kid into counseling, I would be totally disengaged from the kid.
I know what you
I know what you mean...sigh...and I no longer see the loser but after so many years of drama, I am worn out. I do not believe in divorce either...but I always feel worn out just knowing they exist!
Now, don't you love it that before we came along they hardly saw the kids and once we are in the picture the BM hates us, and our DHs think we are mean, but all of a sudden they can't wait to see them? Why? I didn't sign up for this. I signed up for exactly what was happening when we met...which did not include seeing the idiot all the time (thankfully, I never see her anymore since she is such a loser and hates my DH anyway for not sending her more money to piss away with the new flavor of the month), X amount of cs, etc...but once we come in the picture, it all changes and we are told WE are the ones who changed...sure...whaetver...
This is an awful situation
This is an awful situation that isn't SS's fault. He learned that behavior somewhere and maybe even was sexually abused himself. Your DH needs to pull his head out of his butt and get this kid help, and you need to direct your resentment towards DH instead of SS because DH needs to get his kid help.
I'm sorry but that child
I'm sorry but that child would NOT be allowed to stay the night or have unsupervised playtime as long as BD is in the house. How old is this child?! He needs to be in serious therapy now. My heart goes out to you.
As a survivor of sexual abuse at the hands of a relative, I cannot say this enough: OVERprotect that child. Please. There is not a single day that goes by that I am not affected in some way by what that monster did to me.