So right off the bat, I'm in a horrible situation that is and isn't as bad as it seems. I'm quite young and my bf of course is a bit older and he's been married and has 2 kids (boy-7, girl-8) the girl is a bit of a drama queen and the boy has a type of autism and ADHD so he's very off the walls, disobidient and disrespectful. He's constantly destroying things, cursing at adults, hitting his sister and always up someones ass. Now I live with of course my BF, his rude immature mother, his quiet father who's always on the couch watching tv, his ex wife(...yes unfortunately she moved out for a month then moved back in), the 2 kids and then his sister her husband and their 2year old literally lives 2 doors down and are always over. So this house is completely ridiculous but I'm obviously head over heels in love with this guy and he treats me amazing. So my problem is, his mother is always calling me really bad names and telling me to get the F outta her house and telling people I threatened to hurt her and that I broke up their whole family. So her attacking me everytime I walk around makes me feel completely uncomfortable with being around so I've been upstairs in our room alone while my bf is downstairs with the kids and dealing with all the garbage. My bf wants me to come down and be around though and I want to again too but then when I see her face or hear her voice it automatically makes me really angrY and therefore I don't treat my step kids as nice as usual cuz I have an attitude when I'm on defence mode and then his mom wll make comments towards me accusing me of being abusive and saying "u don't like kids very much huh?" And she will say all this IN FRONT of the kids and they hear everything and I'm worried one day when they get older and start understanding that they will either see her for the psycho she is or take her side and start disliking me because they believe I broke their parents up and that I'm a bad person and that I don't like them even though we have a great relationship. They love being around me their always asking wat I'm doing and why I never come down but the way his mom is has been affecting my relationship with them and I'm having trouble pushing her aside and I know I won't be getting out of this house anytime soon cuz I'm not employeed and my bf got laid off so right now we only have to pay 300 a month and we are buying food off my savings and watever he has from his unemployement after he pays wat he has to. And what's really annoying is that his ex wife always gets to go sleepover her bfs house and works during the day so my bf is stuck watching the kids all day by himself and I don't get to spend like any time with him.

Honestly I think I only covered half of my problems here. Any advice on what I've tried to get out so far please?