I started a new job this year. Up until then, I was a stay at home mom to our BS2, my BS6, and SS10. I had time to cook every day, keep the house neat, and spend time with my husband. Now I work an 8-5 with overtime and other obligations. My DH refuses to help when the BS2 wakes up at night, needs a bath, etc. He says he has a "real" job because he works 12 hour shifts , 5 days in a row. On his 2 days off, he does very little. He may cook one of those nights and possibly cut the lawn, but that is with me still getting up at 6 so that the BS2 can go to the sitter and then me pick him up at 5:30. (BS6 and SS10 are with us every other week, so those weeks I am getting 4 of us out the door so that I will not be late.) He leaves for work at 8 and does very little to help us all get ready for the day.
Am I being ridiculous to want more help since we both work?