I joined this sight just to get advice from others going through what I am going through. Ok, where do I start.. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We have been together for 4 and I love him very much. We have a 2 year old son together. My husband has a 10 year old son from a previous marriage and I have a 6 year old son from a previous marriage. As bad as it sounds, I despise my ss. He thinks he is an adult and feels he can talk to me however he pleases. He only listens to his father and has very little respect for women in general. When he talks to his mother on the phone, he has no manners. It drives me insane.
Our biggest issues is school and discipline. My 6 year old loves school and is very smart for his age. (The school has discussed moving him ahead a grade so that he does not get bored.) My ss is the exact opposite. He makes deplorable grades and does not apply himself. I blame his father for this, because he feels that C's or better are fine, because that is average. I am sorry, but I expect my children to preform above average. (This was expected of me when I was younger, and I now have a wonderful career.) My ss went to the 2nd and 3rd grade with us and just finished the 4th grade with his mother. (Thank's to Bush's No Child Left Behind bill, having him held back a grade is almost impossible.) He now thinks that he will be starting the 5th grade with us because "they were not nice to him there." (That is what he told my father.)
I think that letting him decide where he wants to go to school is nonsense. The school he is in is one of the best in the state. He only wants to move back in with us because we have more to do at our house. We live in the country and have four wheelers and dirt bikes. (Always ridden with protective gear and adult supervision.)
My husband and I have two VERY different parenting styles. I have no problem taking things away until grades are where they should be. My husband thinks that the SS is just not interested in school and that this is FINE. He says he is smart in other areas.... HELLO - what other areas are going to get him a job?!?!
I am to the point of being sick over the idea of having him influence my 6 year old. I don't want my son to see that there are no consequences when you do not make good grades.
I have tried to talk to my husband about this, but he says I am mean to the ss and that I just don't like him. And while I may not like the kid, I do love him and worry about his well being. I only want him to be held to a high standard. The BM to the SS is absolutely no help in this department. She has the common sense of a rock and just goes along with whatever my husband says. Someone please help me!!! I am ready to pack my bags and run!!!!