I am still in shock from yesterdays drama in our house . I will try to make this short. Heres a lil background info: DH and I met on my bday 3 years ago and I moved in with him 2 weeks after. It was love at first sight..sounds cheesy but that was it. He had a daughter from a previous relationship, a one night thing and his ex is rotten, shes unstable and very controlling, always alienating his daughter from us when she didnt accept her daughter when she was a baby. I put up 2 years spending holidays with his family and the EX there. I was confused why shes with his family and it was all because of MIL. MIL thinks its best for his daughter to have her mom, dad and the whole family together. By the way MIL hated his ex in the begining because back then she was thinking like a normal person and she saw that the woman got pregnant on purpose to trap DH but he was smart enough and left and shes been living off child support and not working when she has a bachelors and can make up to $70,000 per year. When he left she got crazy, broke into his house, made a mess, she hired a detective to follow him around, when they were together(he tried to make it work) she hit him while he was sleeping just crazy stuff like that.

DH proposed to me a year after we got together-MIL wasnt happy. Btw she doesnt know me, she never spoke to me, barely exchanged 5 words for 2 years. One day we told MIL to never invite his ex to family functions anymore and she was furious and so pissed at me. I got pregnant and MIL wasnt happy again. For 9 months she never asked me 1 time how I feel or how the baby is. She ruined my baby shower, she was nasty when she was here and she was walking from room to room saying stuff like "why there arent any pics of his daughter in our bdroom and just us". She never came to see DD at the hospital when she was born. She didnt see DD until she turned like 5 months! We got married and MIL didnt go to our wedding. She made my wedding night living hell, yelling at me on the phone telling me to read my step daughter (7 y/o) a book for goodnight when it was midnight and SD was crying for her mom and I let her call her from my phone and she pul MIL made a 3 way call and put MIL on the phone to cause trouble.
She came to our house on our wedding day and sprinkled holly water all over. I woke up with a rash on my arm from the stress from the night before the wedding. That whole month of our wedding MIL and his ex tried so hard to make the wedding not happen. Btw MIL is divorced and my father in law is awesome, he did the right choice to leave her crazy butt. Ive been very dissapointed with MIL but FIL has been awesome and very supportive of us.
MIL got a phone for his daughter and she was using it to spy on us at home. Her mom made her write notes of everything we talked about. After all, in February DH's brother had a bday and MIL was there, she was nice and held DD. I thought to myself great, shes changing for good. We spent easter and mothers day together too. I was the bigger person and put everything behind me and hoped for change. I forgot to mension that MIL and ex biggest issue is that I am 23 and that DH is 38 and ex has made comments about my age, my looks and that I will never be a model (I used to model and they both googled my name and saw runway photos and prints, nothing nude like she claims) and that I am too young to be a mother and a wife. His ex and MIL are obviously jealous of my youth and our happiness. That DH has a normal family life and he no longer listens to them and lets them manipulate him. He also got his child support modified because of change in income and additional kids(our new baby and another one on the way) and of course it was my fault again. He used to pay over $1000 and they lowered it with $400..not much but fair enough. MIL and ex blame me for that too.

So yesterday we had my stepdaughter and her mom was supposed to pick her up at 7PM according to their new parenting plan but she was expecting DH to do the drop off again like he has been doing for 7 years 99% of the time. He texted her that shes responsible to pick SD up now and of course her lazy butt didnt wanted to get up from the couch and drive 5 mins( yes she moved in our neighborhood) so she calls MIL. MIL is like her slave, she lives 45 mins from us and she got up and drove to our house to get SD. We had a beautiful day and we just went to get ice cream and were pulling up home and we see MILs car. Uninvited she said that shes gonna pick up SD and DH told her "mom our new parenting plan states that SD's mom is supposed to pick her up" and MIL strikes back "ohh forget about that plan!" She had a crazy look in her eyes and I can just tell she was here for no good. She went INSIDE OUR HOUSE into the kids room, not even saying hello to my mother, not even looking at our baby girl. I was shaking, im pregnant and I wanted the crazy lady out of our happy home! She was making comments that DH and I should switch rooms with the kids and that we dont need a big bdroom, I got so mad at that point and i told her to not worry about it! She made a comment that I could have twins since it runs in his fathers family and she said basically that it wont be a good thing because SD will be completely out of the picture according to her. So many kids now that SD will no longer be #1 She opened the closet and said to DH that DD has more clothes than SD and that he needs to take her shopping. Who the hell is she to tell us what to do? Anger was building in me slowly and I told her, he payes enough child support and SDs mom doesnt work and has all the time in her hands and she can take her shopping. Right there she lost it and started screaming at me coming at me to fight me and DH had to pull her out, littarary drag her up the stairs while she had the craziest look on her eyes screaming at me that this is not my house and that I am having one baby after another to trap him when DH told her he wants 2 kids from me. She was screaming like a lunatic and all that was happening infront of my mother and my step daughter. She was saying that I am nobody and that I have naked pictures on the internet and bla bla. He finally got her out and SD had HUGE eyes and looked scared and I told MIL, he married me because he loves me, were creating a family because we both want to and she was SO angry not listening just screaming Thank God our neighbors werent outside. I told her if she dares to come one more time to our house Im gonna call the police and I am gonna ask for a restraining order on her.

This is it. She crossed the line and I will no longer try to make it work. This person is crazy and I dont want her around me and my daughter. DH was very shocked and embaressed. I have the nastiest MIL. Who breaks into someones house and tries to make rules? Who fights with a pregnant woman? Who doesnt accept their new grandchild?? Who disowns their son and makes best friends with his ex? And all the above I described. I am sure I have missed on a lot but those are the highlights that have stayed in my head. I am seriously thinking of getting us a security camera for the house after this episode. Just wanted to share and get some support. I will never let MIL and ex destroy our family. I know thats their plan. I know they see me as someone that got in the middle of him and his daughter and hes no longer their slave. They hate the fact that I am young and that he got married, what they thought was probably that I am just another girlfriend that will come and go but as time passed and we got engaged, married, had a baby, now another one on the way it seems like theyre getting angrier. I dont understand this.. theyre like terrorists, never want peace for us and always planning the next attack. Life is too short for crap like that. Be happy.