Well I'm brand new to this site. I came across it this morning at work, when googling about my issues with my BF ex (the mother of his 2 year old Daughter.
So hear goes, and any comments or advice would be extremely appreciated.
I had never met his ex till yesterday. I've been with my boyfriend for 5-6 months ya not very long. But we've pretty much been living together for the entire time. I'm looking at renting my house till we decide what to do. But anyways. Being that I've gone through the same thing, I do know that if both parents can get along, it makes things much easier. I get along with my ex and adore his wife and other children. I do know that not all situations can work out that way. So the ex is already taking him to court for custody. He's fighting for shared and he's an amazing dad, my son adalizes him (ya cause there like 2 kids lol) so yes I voice my option that his ex is always trying to control every. It's pretty extreme. If he doesn't call he back with in minutes shes texting to call and so on. Everythings on her time. And he's bent over backwards for her for a year to avoid having to go to court and just try to work things out for them selves. He already questions the paternity of his daughter, she new she prego 2 weeks after having sex, kinda odd. But regardless, before any custody will be done, he's demanding a paternity test. So in the mean time. She blames me for everything. Him not calling back, or texting or just always giving in to her demands. Yes I didn't like that she's call later at night and he always answered. And I brought it up that it was annoying cause were in bed and it was never a good convo so he'd get irritated which in turn ruined our nites. So sex not happeneing. So he told her not to call. And she blames me. He stands up for me. My sister and her boyfriend went to school with the ex. Just so you know the ex is also only 23. WEll hey run into each other at the bar and that's a whole other situation cause of course my sister knows the situation as does my family. and yes they stand up for my boyfriend. So the ex is going off the deep end, and started threatening to get a restraining order against me and my family for there daughter. I tried last weekend to make ammends (not sure for what because I had never even spoke to her till last weekend when I called to ask to figure this out and she hung up on me cause I told her honostly have no idea what I did to wrong her) I'm a good person to there daughter. I've never so much as sweared at the ex or name called nothing. Never hurt there daughter. absolutely nothing. I do know she can't get one without cause. But still she's driving me crazy. Blames everyone for everything never taking ownership. Calls my bf constantly and I don't understand how he can just sit there and listen to her bitch at him. he says he's just so used to it doesn't even fase him. It is causing issues between us, cause yes I get pissed off that pisses him off and it consumes a lot of our time. She's big into mind games which neither of us cater to. He texts to me, are rediculous. she trys to play us against each other, which is pissing her off cause not working.
Anyways I don't know what to do. I've tried my hardest to talk to her, text, and call to try and just gbe civil. I don't want to deal with this for 18 years and neither does he. But were both just at our wits end.
Any thoughts anyone dealt with a crazy? She always lies, lies about everything (thats what more concerns me about the restraining order threats is she will probably lie to obtain one.