Moved into BF my son won't sleep in his room?
I have a 10YR old son, my boyfriends 2yr daughter. He gets his daughter everyother weekend. I have my son everyother week. My BF and I have been contimplating living situations over the last couple months. I own a house with my dad. (I have the upper level) my dad lives in the basement appartment 2 seperate living areas but still a pain. There are only 2 bedrooms, its a country property. My BF is renting a country property which is awesome, its a bungalow, 2 bedrooms, kitchener, livingroom bathroom upstairs. and 2 bedrooms, huge living room, bathroom, laundry etc downstairs. We have been pretty much living there the last 4 months, aside from bringing all our belongings. My son has been sleeping in his daughters room when there. Which has been going great. So we've made the leap and decided to move in completely.
My son was all excited cause he would have a bedroom in the basement and the livingroom to use as his own. We moved all my sons belongings and furniture so he had everything he needs.
The problem is he won't sleep down there (it's not a dungon, clean furnished can hear everything down and upstairs. He's scared shitless down there and won't sleep down there. He's fine up intill bedtime. Then its a fight. We've lived in the country for 5 years he knows what its all about the noises and such.
Anyone have any suggestions or tackticks to help?
It's not an issue of not wanting to be there by any means. my son is thirlled to be living there.
We've tried the usual night lights, music. I even tried laying with him one night (haven't done that since he was 3)
Thoughts?
Try having him make a fort or
Try having him make a fort or pitch a tent down there make it as fun as possible.
Has he said why he's afraid
Has he said why he's afraid to sleep down there?
Love the fort Idea, thank
Love the fort Idea, thank you.
I ask and he has to sit there and think. HMMM a plow, maybe but still seems genuinily upset. He says he hears noises, sounds like someone walking in the house. And he says its not us. Well generally were not too far off past him going to be we both work and have to get up fairly early. I know that houses creek and we talked about that and he knows being we've lived in the country for a while.
My own BS (then 9)begged to
My own BS (then 9)begged to move out of his upstairs bedroom and into the finished basement bedroom. We painted and decorated it and moved all his crap down there. And then he didn't want to sleep down there. It was also the noises and stuff he thought he saw. He eventually got over it with night lights and a super special night time routine he and I created. It involved several night lights, tucking him in just so, and this sort of ongoing story we made up. Doesn't matter what the story or routine is...just that it was there. Hopefully your son will get past it as well.
Thank You Mama and Draco
Thank You Mama and Draco those are some great ideas. Will definitly try them. Tonights the last night I have him for a week. My next week I have him I will give them a shot. Thanks again everyone for your ideas and suggestions. I'll let you know what works.