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Am I being unreasonable and mean?

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Submitted by cookiemonster08 on Thu, 04/14/2011 - 8:30pm

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Background: SS13 & SS10 have weekend visitation with BM. She is a chain smoking former drug addict and prostitute with a terrible temper and a
trashy live in boyfriend who lives over an hour away from us.

SS13 & SS10 have a friend who used to live in our neighborhood but moved recently. He is back this week visiting his grandma for spring break. SKs called BM and she said it was OK for me to bring him along this weekend when I met her for drop off. I meet BM on Fridays because DH is at work. I said no and now I am the meanest person ever. My reasons are that I don't feel comfortable dropping off someone else's kid more then an hour away from home with a stranger who I don't think should even be allowed to see her own kids. If something happens, I don't feel like driving to go pick him up.

Am I being unreasonable or would you have said yes? Supposedly, the friends grandma said it was OK but she is Koren and barely speaks English so I can't ask her. I am so hated tonight and here alone to bare the brunt of it all because DH is at work.

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Submitted by twopines on Thu, 04/14/2011 - 8:42pm

I would not take another kid and drop him off to BM. She can arrange it with the boy's grandmother herself, and pick him up if this is a priority for BM.

Let the precious throw their tantrums (in their rooms). The world will keep spinning if you don't drive the friend. BM can do it.

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Submitted by cookiemonster08 on Thu, 04/14/2011 - 8:48pm

Thanks. I think it is a bad precedent to start. I just don't want to be responsible for inflicting BM on other people's innocent kids.

Its hard though when you are told how mean you are.

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Submitted by ch21 on Fri, 04/15/2011 - 8:38am

my bd has been convicted of many charges and is the scum of the earth and i would not let her watch my dog if i had one so u are not being mean. they may not understand now maybe one day they will and if not at least u won't have it on your conscience if something happened to that kid

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Submitted by steptwins on Fri, 04/15/2011 - 10:19am

I probably wouldn't have said no. You can't educate everyone with your "opinion" of BM. One swin did something similar 2 years ago, and my neighbor said -- when she got there & dropped off her son, I wish I said No b.c. I felt very leary of leaving him there (at chain smokin' BM's-w/pitbull, biker bf, loaded guns laying around). Neighbor had assume BM was normal b.c. DH & I are. LOL.