DW and I had a big argument the other day with my In laws.sd5 and ss3 had dental work done ( that's what happens when kids are allowed to have sugary drinks at bedtime...it was I'll that gave them to them when the kids lived there before our marriage) and I stayed home to watch them. I called mil to ask her to pick up prescription for the kids ibuprofen. SD was asleep and ss was trying to sleep and I didn't want to drag them to the store. Mil calls back and says her and fil are coming to take kids home. DW wanted me to watch them because I will follow the dentist after care instructions..no jumping around,no dairy,nothing acidic and soft food only. Ils give in at first whine. DW calls mil and tells her they are staying home with me. Then ILS throw a fit saying I am unfit to watch them because I won't comfort them and be mean and not give them what they want. They don't understand the difference between comfort and babying and spoiling a child. Fil is upset that SD and especially ss see me as their dad. Sd has seen bd once and Ss had never seen bd and I have been in his life since he was 1 an we are in the process of adoption.they even get mad because sd10 likes the same sports teams as I do and the music I like but not ranchero music which is what fil listens to.they are causing so much unnecessary drama