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debiamia's picture

is a good way to describe BM. SHe always seems to flare up at times when you just start forgetting that she exists. My parents came here last night to go see a Big Band review with us. This morning I made them breakfast and we took them out on the boat for a ride around the island. The weather was perfect- 80 with a slight breeze and the water was calm.

We got back into the dock and DH checked his cell phone which was blinking. BM had called complaining about SD20's dog which lives with BM for the past year (seems that after a year it is BM's dog). DH invited SD20 to come visit us next weekend when her Half-brother is in town. DH did not invite SD17 who has been living with her boyfriend since January when she moved back to be with her mom, ran off with her BF20. DH is still mad at SD17, has told her he doesn't approve of her behavior, lifestyle, dropping out of high school)etc. Of course we still have to pay CS for SD17 even though she doesn't live with her BM.

BM wanted to tell DH that she was going out of town next weekend and WE would have to take care of her dog!! BM also wanted to know WHY we had not invited SD17 to come next weekend. DH is worried that it will be too tense if SD17 is here. He doesn't want the dog to come either but BD22 was here last weekend with her dog who is well behaved. This dog is mean, yappy and has fear aggression. He will bite when scared and does not like most men. I told DH that we can keep him in the mudroom with a baby gate when we go out on the boat.

BM will keep calling and calling about next weekend so I told DH to deal with her NOW so she doesn't ruin our Saturday night- this has happened many times in the past.BM goes crazy if you don't call her back right away.

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The Principlist's picture

it is your right to say no since it is your house. Too bad, so sad, she needs to find a kennel or a dog-sitter PERIOD. No one has the right to make demands of you that you are uncomfortable with. Who cares who is pissed, the bottom line is that they are going to have something negative to say about you regardless (even if you watched the damn dog). So, I say with the given scenario, do what makes YOU happy and tell her to take the dog with her or whatever.

My new StepMother's Motto:

When life gives you lemons... Make a damn good Margarita.

Tara12's picture

I agree with Anne he shouldn't even be taking her calls unless there is some emergency with the kids where they couldn't get to the phone. I can't wait til SD is 18 because I know FH will not even give her the time of day after all the crap she comes up with. It makes me sick! Tell her to put the dog in a kennel.