The last time I was on this site was last spring when the child support ended for SD18. DH is the ever optimist felt that EX#2 would now leave us alone to live in bliss.After paying expenses for SS28 to get married (including reception, apartment deposit and furnishings) we thought we were done.How foolish of me to think that he and his wife could act responsibly since we dropped $4000.00 to provide a modest wedding, wedding rings,money to catch their bills up, etc. I found out in mid August that SS28hadn't paid his car payment for two months and was going to have it reposessed for the third time in less than 12 months. His car loan was at the same credit union that DH and I have had accounts for years.We rarely use the accounts so the credit union froze my account. Got that straightened out by making DH pay off the car.

Now comes the fall with the skids coming for Thanksgiving dinner. SD18 fails to show up because she would rather be with her pot smoking boyfriend.SD22 is reduced to tears by BM because she does not want her to have a relationship with her father who has always been good to the skids paying child support, extras, college tuition and car repairs as well as visitation.SD22 can't understand how this evil shrue can be so mean and tires to make her feel guilty for loving her dad. SHe sent her a text threatening to NOT pay for her wedding someday and ends it by saying she doesn't want DH or me at the wedding. They have been divorced for 18 years, just after SD18 was born.

The visit ends with us having to give SS28 $125.00 to pay for his gas home and fix his bank overdraft because he paid the utility bills late again and had a shut off notice. I am tempted to give them the "gift of energy" for Christmas so the money goes right on their utility bill. DH wants to give them all cash but feels BD23 doesn't really need anything because she is more stable, in graduate school and her dad's family will give her alot.His kids, on the other hand are"struggling" and need some help. Just whose fault is it that SS28 quit college after one semester and works at a pizza shop making $8.00 and hour and got his then girlfriend pregnant because she wanted another baby? Or SD22 who did horrible in high school and now is taking some remedial courses at community college for the past three years, making minimal progress. Then you have SD18 who dropped out of high school at 16 and also works part time at a pizza shop and spends the rest of her days smoking pot with her boyfriend.

I will never understand the logic of DH. Thanks for listening to me rant and rave!