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The nonsense is still not over

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The last time I was on this site was last spring when the child support ended for SD18. DH is the ever optimist felt that EX#2 would now leave us alone to live in bliss.After paying expenses for SS28 to get married (including reception, apartment deposit and furnishings) we thought we were done.How foolish of me to think that he and his wife could act responsibly since we dropped $4000.00 to provide a modest wedding, wedding rings,money to catch their bills up, etc.

Break out the champagne!!!!!!

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DH called the Court today and verified that the CS for SD17 will END on her birthday next month. BM had recieved a letter from the court asking for proof of school attendance if she wanted the CS to continue past age 18. Per the divorce papers it will stop on her 18th birthday unless BM can prove that SD17 is making "reasonable progress" towards graduation and is living with the custodial parent. SD17 is doing not living at home and is two years behind in school. The case worker told DH that she has not received any of the required paperwork from BM and the case is closed next month.

A long six months

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I just checked the date of my last posting and it was August! I had found out that SS27 and his girlfriend/ fiance were announcing that they were having a baby. I couldn't believe the news or DH's attitude towards the "happy news". I thought that he would call SS27 and read him the riot act but he did nothing. Had this been BD22 I would have been all over her- not that she would plan to have a baby without being married. SS's girlfriend PLANNED to get pregnant so her kids would be 3 years apart. She already has one from another man.

This Never Ends

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I need help with this one. BD22 and I were on the phone planning our weekend together. I will drive to KY. to see her new apt., where she works at the university (she graduated from college in May) and play with my "grandpuppy". When I hung up I saw that DH was talking to SD20. DH hangs up the phone and immediately starts telling me that I am not going to like what he is going to tell me. I try guessing. Is SD17 pregnant? After all she lives with her 20 year old boyfriend. No he says. Thank God, I breathe easier. SS27 has gotten his GF/fiance pregnant.

Like an annoying insect

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is a good way to describe BM. SHe always seems to flare up at times when you just start forgetting that she exists. My parents came here last night to go see a Big Band review with us. This morning I made them breakfast and we took them out on the boat for a ride around the island. The weather was perfect- 80 with a slight breeze and the water was calm.

More nonsense

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Does this bull%$@# ever end? Thursday night DH asks me if BD21 would like SD17's used car that we were pushed into buying the minute she became eligible to take driver's ed. I asked him why and he told me he didn't really want to go into the details but SD17 had AGAIN violated the conditions for driving the car. When she returned to her BM in January she immediately acted up and moved in with her boyfriend. So BM took away the 2001 Ford Escort and told us what a rotten child she was.

SD16, tomorrow 17

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Tomorrow is SD16's birthday. Six months ago we were counting down the months of CS until June 2009 when she would be graduating. After she moved in with us and wouldn't put forth any effort we knew that she probably would not graduate on time. She has been gone for 3 months next week and the alternative education teachers have told us she will not graduate next year or maybe not ever as she doesn't go to class some of the time. SD had mentioned plans to go to court and become emancipated when she turned 17. She has been living with her 20 year old boyfriend since moving home.

Funny (maybe not) BM/ SM Experiences

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1. BM calls DH right after we began dating and tells him she knows someone who had sex with me on the first date- dated the guy once and turned him down for 2nd date.

2. BM calls DH and tells him that I don't know the difference between chicken pox and mosquito bites- I was right.

3. BM sends the skid with calamine lotion for a rash- it was scabies covering body from neck to toes.

4. BM goes to our credit union and tries to make a deposit into my account so she can check the balance- teller calls me before she gives BM the info.

Step Son Wedding Dilema

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DH was married two times before we met and fell madly in love. I didn't know about the first marriage and then 12 year old stepson at first, just his mean exwife and the two SD's 5 and 2. He told me about ex #1 while we were driving down the highway at 70 MPH and though I wanted to jump out I couldn't.

Good Therapy

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After nearly two months of SD16 moving out of our house and back home with BM I have finally decided to go upstairs and do something with the bedroom she slept in and trashed. I just couldn't face the mess which translates into total disrespect for me and DH. I went up there on Saturday afternoon, looked around and decided to change the general theme of the bedding, accesories, etc. SD16 decided right away that she wanted that room because it was the largest, had great windows and skylights over my sewing desk.

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