I need opinions about this..... SD16 moved out to live w/crazy BM in Feb, since then, we haven't seen her. She did come by once to "move her things out", beyond that, nothing. She does call DH about once a week. Anyway, both SD's and BM are major drama starters, 24/7. DH umpires and my boys play baseball @ a field close to our home. Last yr, SD worked there as a scorekeeper and worked the concession stand. This year, since she moved over 30 miles away, I was hoping she would not be working the ball field this year.
She informed DH 2 wks ago that she was indeed making BM bring her 30+ miles to the ballfield to work. Don't ask me why. I felt this was "OK" until late last week she started some drama with me and DH. SD18 is pregnant and DH isn't going to be allowed to see the baby? Don't have a clue why. She was flaunting it in DH's face, etc. Today I told him I didn't want her to be at the ball field, there is no need. This is a very tight nit league, and I don't need her lies making us look like bad parents (she's good at that). Plus, she would be bringing pics of the baby up there and showing them around, etc. Not fair to DH. Anyhow, I asked him to call her today and politely ask her not to come there to work. (he expressed not wanting her there either) He got angry with me and told me to take the high road. I told him I have been taking the high road with his kids for far to long and I am tired of it. Later in the day, I sent her a text (politely) asking her not to work at the ball field. She calls DH screaming that she is never going to speak to him again and she won't be working the ball field.
Maybe I shouldn't have sent the text, and I apologized to him for that. Then he starts telling me I am selfish and not thinking about her. WTF? When do I get to NOT think about her feelings for once and do what I want. All I wanted was for my feelings to matter to him MORE than hers for once, just ONCE. So, don't I have the right to feel comfortable watching my boys play ball w/out her staring me down and talking about me to all the people up there? We live in the 16th largest city in America, it's not like she can't find a real job. Am I wrong, should I have just sucked it up, again? If I am wrong, I will apologize and move on, but I really do think I deserve to spend time with my kids not having to worry about "offending" her, etc.