So my 21 year old and 23 year old SDs got a bit bent out of shape that I asked they not open anopther bottle of my wine...they already had beer and wine both and we were settling down to watch a movie they would be into...chosen more for them than the 3 younger boys to "please them". We always watch a family movie on New Year's Eve, and frankly the oldest usually gets in a pout. Well, now she was because no more wine and I said no to car keys. Husband said "she just needs her space" and let her go...our 14 year old said "then I just want to go onthe computer Dad..can't I"...he is always saying how unfair treatment is and how they can do whatever they please. Meanwhile, I can say nothing, or very little...husband has already told me he will never, ever stand up for me with girls,intervene and sees very little wrong with speaking "his truth" to them abpout me and telling them how he feels...big trianlge! I am just trying to accept that I am married to a jerk and although I adore the 21 year old, the 23 year old is difficult and that nothing will ever change unless I change myself and my reactions. He has said that himsewlf...he will not step in no matter how rude she is to me. We just returned from skiing where her only comments to me were slightly tinged wityh sarcasm and my husband says"you are the adult" or he acts as if he does not notice! Ugh!