Bonusfamilies...have you checked it out?
What do you think?
I think it's amazing that these two woman have come together the way they have.
Do you think you could work with your husbands x?
My x's girlfreind...I could work with her..& she me..I think we can each contribute things to the kids..like they talk about on the web-site!!
As far as hubby's X she is INSANE so no for me on that count!
I'd like to hear everyone's thoughts on this...
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NO WAY!!
Great concept…I’ve seen the lady’s on Oprah a while ago…My mom and step-mom actually have managed to form the same type of relationship/partnership….(see my pervious posts…) However, I know that it could not work for me b/c we are just such different women with different values and belief systems…not to mention that the girls moms do not see a reason or a need to “co-parent” (which is essentially what is taking place) with my husband let alone with me! They want to be in complete control of every situation that arises and the only thing that they want from my husband is the check…have even gone as far as saying that they could care less if he had a relationship with his daughters or not and the only thing that keeps him seeing them as haphazardly as he does is the visitation order (which is CONSTANTLY violated) So…I think this could only work if both women respected each other’s presence and that is nearly impossible when deep down inside (she’s even told her CURRENT boyfriend who in turn told my husband) she wants your husband back!!
No Way In H***!!!!!!!!!!!
Never could I work with that lying b****! And I have something in common with Nise also. I was told several years back, by my husband's ex that she always wondered if her and my hubby would get back together. Now is that something you would say to someone's current wife?
I guess we all have jealous
I guess we all have jealous X's in common! Last year psycho X sent hubby a "thinking of you often.....especially today" e-mail on their anniversary after 2 years of no contact! (She knows she threw away the best thing that ever happened to her..... I'm sure she wishes she had him back.)
His reply... "I can't stand you.. stay the hell away from me!!"
He didn't here from her this year...........
Like Nise said
Me and biomom have totally different value, belief and moral systems. We are not alike in any way. My husband tries to co-parent with her as best as he can but she wouldn't want to deal with me at all.
Maybe in the future when stepson is older. The jury is still out!
Dawn
I actually don't believe these women get along...
I have never seen them together, but there is an undertone of resentment in the remarks that the bio mother makes on the web page. I think that their philosophy is unrealistic and it obviously didn't "work" for them until a number of years had passed - so how does this make them an authority? It actually just proves the point that it takes time to reach a civil relationship with the X - if one can ever actually be achieved. If there were problems between these two women 14 years ago - there are still problems now. I stoppped believing everything I read or see a long time ago...
As for working with the X - not in that capacity. She is crazy and extremely delusional. There isn't enough psychological medication out there to help her (and believe me she is on most of it now).
Oh...yes we do...LOL
Write us if you like...;-) Put step talk in the subject line and we will try to get back to you ASAP...
And, the reason it took a number of years is because we didn't know any better. We were learning. Our goal is to say others time.
One could only hope...
I feel like I'm the only one making any effort to get along when it comes to me and BM. I would LOVE to be able to say that BM and I are at least civil toward each other, let alone "get along" for the sake of SS. I can't stand knowing that SS feels torn between the two of us. If we could present a united front, I know he'd be very relieved! I've tried so hard to get this through to her but no matter what I say, nothing ever changes. I try to be as supportive as I can to him and provide him with as stress-free of an environment as I can, but I wish I didn't always have to feel like I'm trying to make up for the hell that BM puts him through when he's at her house...I'm most worried about his relationship with his mother. What happens if years from now she hasn't changed and he grows to resent her for the hell she's put him through? Of course, she'll blame it on me!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Goody for you!
Glads it works for you - it a great marketing tool! Absolutely no way I'd ever be interested in a friendship w/BM. Almost seems incestous to me! Simply goes against the natural order of things, IMO.
She is not my cup of tea - would never be friends under any circumstance. Ignorant, deceitful, untrustworthy, insecure, tacky...
I would love to be civil, not have her lie to Skids about us, not try to put my DH in jail or slander him...but BBF? (Best Friends Forever) NOT!!!!!!