Does anyone else
Have an EW who is a hypochondriac and has recently scheduled my SS to have their tonsils removed becuase he snores? Who does this to a child? She also has my SD seeing a shrink and tells her that it is because she has anger issues. The shrink has no idea what she is talking about. How can a mother do this to a child?
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Anger issues
Well if SD doesn't have anger issues now, she soon will being forced into therapy.
You're not kidding. She is
You're not kidding. She is still young enough to want to make her mother happy by not arguing with her, but I worry about the long term affect of it all. Particularly since I have a new baby with DH. My SS and SD come from such a different world...DH seems to think that they are just fine and all we can do is hope for the best, but I don't want my new baby to be exposed to it all. Yikes...
If I may ask, and it is
If I may ask, and it is completely off the subject of your original post…but when you found out you were pregnant, how and when did you tell the SK’s? Did you tell the SK’s before telling their mother or did you not tell her at all and let her find out however…
My DH and his EW have a very
My DH and his EW have a very controversial relationship. She was actually pregnant by her new husband (poor idiot) at the same time as I was. I have always wanted to keep my family as protected from her as possible, so we didn't tell the SK right away (they don't live with us and she makes it practically impossible to take them over weekends during the school year) - in fact we waited until it was no longer possible not to tell. Forget telling the EW. If your experience with the EW is that she is crazy, keep in mind that your family is none of her business although she will always consider that it is...
I have the mixture
Anytime the kids get hurt they get a trip to the ER, courtesy of my husband and me. We foot all of the medical bills. But when it comes to logic, such as an over wieght child (feed him crap) and not listen to what the doctor says. With the ss and the ADD she feeds her Mt. Dew and Vault. Why is it the biomom's are so ignorant sometimes.
You are alot nicer than I am
You are alot nicer than I am about calling her a biomom. I rarely use the word "mom" where she is concerned. I have never met a more self-absorbed person ever. My DH and I don't live anywhere near her, because she is that crazy. We have to keep a tight rein on her by following the legal papers as closely as possible and not giving her an inch on them. It is a lot of work, because she doesn't think that laws apply to her...go figure. Thankfully with the addition of her wee one (by her new husband), we hear from her a lot less. I call the baby her new victim and I am sad for it, because it is innocent and honestly has no voice, but she will manage to twist it and try to convince it that her version of "mother" is the right one.
Your EW sounds like a real self-absorbed one, as well. My sympathies...
I just hate that families
I just hate that families have to end up like this! I have a sister from my mother’s side and a two brothers from my father’s side who call each other brother and sister and I think that when families have to splinter, it should (in the LOOOOOONNNNGGG run) be turned into a positive thing (i.e. gaining a bigger support group of “family” that loves you). I am blessed to have that be the case in my family b/c my stepmom and my mom get along well. A lot of time has passed and neither one of them is a frickin’ nut case (like my stepdaughters mothers are!) so that helps…in the end they BOTH want what is best for us and in large part that is healthy relationships! There are a lot of moms/step moms who are able to find this balance but the reality for some of us (me included) is that it will NEVER HAPPEN!
I agree 100%. You have
I agree 100%. You have actually seen it work where a SM and mom could work it out. Very rare. I can honestly say at this point, that I wouldn't want to be friends with the SM. She has threatened me and has told the SK things about me that she shouldn't have. Not that it matters to them, but it makes it very awkward when we are all in the same room. If you ask me, it's a control issue. The EW generally wants all of it all of the time, even with my DH. When that doesn't happen - well, you know...a woman scorned...