When my youngest had surgery I would have gone into the OR with him if they had let me.

This "womb-donor" (Thanks, Rags- I'm borrowing) should not even be worthy of the title of "Mother" in this case.

A mother's first job is to care for her child, especially when the child is sick or injured (or in this case, recovering from surgery).

SHAME on her, whoever she is.

"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"

I am astounded everytime I come on this site and read these posts about these mothers. I think she is a self-centered piece of you know what. How could you not be there for your child for something like that? I am just so disgusted to even read this right now. She should not be allowed to be a parent - if she wants a "break" she should give up custody!

How can you do that, I could never leave my Bio kids or skids to someone else to take care of after surgery.

I always ask myself the same thing. I really don't understand what is going on in the BM head. My Skids BM has had 4 kids and only 1 with her. We have two, one is in CT with it's father and she has the other. Who knows what goes on in their heads.

I could never do it, my bond with my Bio boys is strong.

Sounds like she needed something else! This "mother" sounds
a little self-centered. As a Father, I would never, never be without
my child during any event such as surgery. Sounds a little like my ex-
wife.

The hardest part of having a SM in my children's lives, was the times when I couldn't care for them when they were sick. Sons' SM stayed home for a year or so early on. This meant when the boys were ill and over there, she was with them. We hadn't been divorced more than a few months when she moved in with my ex.

That was a divorce reality check pretty fast.

When my BS 14 had a simple surgery, exH and I both were there, but I had BD with me who was still a baby. She was nursing too, so I couldn't stay past the recovery room time as BD and I both were in need of seeing each other in private by then!

My son was 11 or so, but I still felt horrible having to leave him with his DAD. Not because he needed me, but because I needed to be there.

That BM, is an absolutely poor excuse for a mother.

Your SK (can't remember if it's SD or SS) is very fortunate to have you.

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Your quote says it all - giving birth DOESN'T make you a mother. I know that as well, I've been MOTHER to my ss6 for the last 2 years. He's seen his bm for MAYBE a total of 2 weeks over those two years...what's the reason? She's a lazy, selfish waste who would rather continue living her LOSER life of constant unemployment, legal trouble, fighting with her family, going to rehab now and then to get sympathy, etc...than to GROW UP and be a mother. She LOVES to think of herself as a victim, but the only victim here is her SON. I can't imagine how people like her can stand themselves.
I am not constantly angry about her like I used to be, I've come to terms with it and realized it's actually easier for my dh and I if she's not in the picture, but now and then when I'm taking HER son to school, the doctor, basketball games, I wonder what SHE's doing at that moment. Sitting on her fat ass feeling sorry for herself I'm sure. UGH.

Both my girls had surgery the same day last summer and there was no way I was going anywhere away from them. I had to be almost forced to leave to get a drink and some air and go potty!