My sister is engaging in very typical BM behaviors! I have probably ranted about her before I am not sure. She left her husband several years ago, he has had visitation with my niece since then, all through courts. She denies visits takes, does not show up to drop her kid off and does not return phone calls or texts to her ex. We are disgusted with what she is doing! My former brother in law is an asshole but he is good father. My sister has started doing this because she does not like his wife and does not want her around my niece. My sister fired her attorney for telling her to do the right things. She is only works part time right now so she does not have money to get a new attorney. Her ex is working on holding her in contempt now and modifying custody due to her constantly violating orders. She does not allow my niece to call her dad twice a week, she does not keep him informed of my niece's medical (this is very serious because my niece had a terrible illness a few years ago), she calls him to cuss him out and texts his wife rude comments.

We all have dealt with BMs like this and it is driving me crazy that my sister is now a BM from hell! She knows my skids and my husband have suffered and it is like she is learning from her! It makes me sick! I do not want to see my sister lose custody as she is a good mom in many ways but she is not listening to reason! I have lost much affection to her and it has me shook up. We have no contact with our own dad, my mother is trying to talk sense to her but she is not relenting. My mother is also her biggest enabler, pays bills for her, babysits free all the time when sis wants to go out instead of sending niece to dad's home etc. My sister will deny dad his time then give niece to my mom! It is straining things with my mother. She has been able to come see me due to being at my sister's home cooking and cleaning and being her servant. My sister cusses my mom if she doesn't get her way and my mom tolerates as she is a doormat and emotional punching bag to anyone in the world.

She is unconcerned with court because BM2 that we deal with has had no consequences thus far so she thinks the same will happen in her case. My husband is fed up with her and wants to contact her ex and sympathize with him. I disagree with that and he is honoring that so far. I do not talk about her or her case with my own DH any longer as it creates too much tension between us. Previously I attended hearings with her and her lawyer, she would scream, cry, stomp, cuss and carry on terribly. I would like her to go to counseling and mediation and work on her anger toward her ex but she will not hear of it.

Here is where we are at with her now, police in her town have told her to stop, police in his town have told her stop contacting. She is totally unconcerned. I love my niece and I do want her to see her dad as that is the right thing morally and legally.

Can I keep my sister and niece in my life even though I detest what she is doing? Can my sister get some real consequences in front of judge? Our BM2 gets away with tons of crap just like the rest of the women we all talk about on here. I am worried my niece would be devastated to be away from her mother and it would seriously harm her mental health or cause her to get ill from depression etc. I am worried if my former BIL got custody I would never get to see her, she is so precious and she and my dd are so close. My dd would be damaged from losing her cousin who is her best friend.