Sound Familiar???
So, I have cut off my sister for being a BM from hell. Old news. I refuse to let my mother mention her to me or her custody and visitation issues with her ex. Peaceful! I did however reach out to her ex. People can think what they want. I refuse to discuss her or her tactics with him. I am not going to speak against her since everyone already knows how I feel about it. I only told him I too will miss dear Niece greatly and that my husband could sympathize with him completely. I told him to please keep in touch regarding DN and my DD. He was glad the girls will still see each other and could also use me and my DD to help DN settle into to visits with him in due time if he is able to see her. It sounds fine.
I did not listen to anything about my sister. I don't care! However, he did tell me before I had to cut him off, that his life is ruined. He was depressed and miserable. My sister got money from someone to fight him in court. He pays his CS to sister, so he has gone broke fighting to see DN. His wife works but she has a child and does not recieve CS. They could not afford the home they rented near sister and my mom any longer. They were evicted and now live in an urban ghetto in their city. Sis is thrilled that he lives in a high crime area! She is using it as her current excuse for keeping my niece from her dad! "Too dangerous! White girls do not belong over there! Something bad will happen! I saw crime in the area on the news! Drug deals etc." This poor man!
Dh has it awful with BM2 honestly. But he is very blessed to not have to worry about money at this time in his life. That is one comfort we can have right now when it comes to the hell of him being denied his kids and watching BM2 warp their brains and fuck up their lives. Atleast she did not break us financially and take away everything he has worked for!
How disgusting! Truely awful! I told him to stop talking about it to me. It was heartbreaking.
Its good that you choose not
Its good that you choose not to get in the middle of it but its sad that your niece has to endure that.
She probably thinks of the
She probably thinks of the kid as her property.
For the first 5 years of our
For the first 5 years of our marriage we never lived nearer than 2000ish+ miles to either my family or my bride's. We mostly did holidays with friends and my brothers family and a one holiday season each with my ILs and my parents. Then my parents moved back to the US from overseas. We lived 2miles E of them and my brother and his family lived 2miles W of them.
At that point most holidays were spent with my family.
We are spending this holiday season with my ILs. It has been ten years since we had a holiday with them. We have done Christmas once, TG once, and New Years once with my ILs over our 21 year marriage.
SS has had every TG and Christmas day with our family. The CO gave my bride Christmas Day. The visitation never gave the Sperm Clan TG. We never had July 4th. We had the Skid's birthday bds 3-17. The spermclan Had his 2nd and 18th.
My sis does love Dn to the
My sis does love Dn to the moon and back, but her dad does too. She loves to dress her up in the best and most hip fashions, gets her expensive purses and takes her for pictures like once a month. She is constantly posting pics of them together. In many ways she is a great mother, feeds her well, does school work with her and loves her dearly. She is always taking her to special events. No one is terrible at everything all the time.
But then when it comes to her ex and his wife, she is just denying them access at every turn. In that case she treats as her property and pawn. But it is ok for her to leave DN with my mom whenever she pleases to go out and party. She tells DN way too much of this crap as well.
My sister and my mom live in the country I am from. Not far by plane at all. My sister's ex lives there too. I can fly there with DD whenever I want to. My mom does not come as much as she used to because my sister is always having her cook, clean her apartment and watch DN. When I go back to visit I will see my DN at her dad's home and take my DD with me. I will also see DN at my mom's when I visit. The ex bring DN to me would be unlikely as he does not have money for travel at this time, and my sis would prevent that in any way she could. As soon as ex has DN he is going to call so I can atleast have DD talk to her or facetime with her.