I have three teenage stepkids. SD17, SD16 and SS14. SD17 is a bitch. There's nothing remotely nice about her. She's spoiled, selfish and mean to those she doesn't like. There are times I wonder how she has any friends at all, but then I realize she doesn't have many and most of her friends are the very same as her. The other two stepkids are okay. I don't particularly like the younger two either. But I would easily choose them over her. All the stepkids have issues with me and the fact DH and I have a child together. SD16 and SS14 aren't as vocal about it, but they avoid me and choose to see DH only. I've accepted that and am thankful they don't try to cause drama like SD17 does.

SD16 and SS14 sent DH his Father's Day cards a few days ago. They made plans a couple of weeks ago to hang out in the afternoon with him where they each gave him a gift (SS got him a Fast and Furious box set and SD16 got him a signed poster he'd wanted forever. She took the bus to get it and spent all her money on it for him, which was very thoughtful). They had a great time. DH was smiling when he came home and proudly hung the post up. He also started watching the movies almost immediately. But after the first movie was over, he called SD17 to try and talk to her. She didn't answer the phone and after a few hours of this, she sent him a text telling him to "fuck off, I don't want to talk to you!" He responded that she better learn some respect, etc. etc... And then she blew up and told him to go fuck himself. She said she hates us (me, our daughter and him) and that she hopes something bad happens to our daughter because "he deserves to suffer the loss of a child".

Now, all this comes from resentment and anger that all three stepkids have. But SD17 is the most vocal and cruel about it. They hate that he started dating me when there was a custody battle going on for them. SD16 told him after an incident with SS14 a few years ago that they felt like the least important part of his life because he was able to make a new family while they saw very little of him. She also said he moved very fast and never gave them the chance to get used to things. They went from never being here overnight to overnight with a new wife in the house. She said she and her brother were working on getting over it, but they also would probably never want a relationship with me beyond treating me as his wife. They told him I wasn't going to be a huge part of their lives like he wanted. He told me all this and said he never thought it would hurt them as much as it did. When SD17 found out about the talk between SD16 and her dad, she added that she'd always hate him and he was a cunt as far as she's concerned.

So after the texts yesterday, DH went to bed early and was hurt and frustrated with the situation. Something similar happened last year, but SD17 was more public about her lashing out then. The other stepkids texted him when they found out what happened and said they loved him. Last night, they did the same thing. SD16 even said she'd talk to SD17 about it all. But DH was still in a mood.

I hate Father's Day!

Oh! And I got a text from SD17 this morning. She said "good luck explaining to your kid why her older siblings want nothing to do with her".