I can't stand the skids so I refuse to count them as my kids or OUR kids. So when someone asks us (me and DH) how many kids we have, DH always says 3 referring my BS and our shared kids.
Yes he does. And I prefer it that way (yes i know that's mean, but its true). Of course when i'm not around he will then include his kids in the count.
When someone would ask I "USED TO" say five but "NOW" I just say I have two. I have a bd and bs and dh has three. Years back I once answered someone and said five, ss didn't like it and complained to dh. Today we are estranged from ss and msd. I do not claim them in any way, shape, or form. I have 2 kids and dh has 3. I simply answer two. DH can speak for himself.
If I am asked how may grand kids, I say five (1 bgd11, 1 bgs2, 3 sgs's 6, 4, 2mos). I claim the sgs's from osd28 that we have a relationship with. I do not claim children of estranged msd. I have never even seen them.
When we are together and people ask, we say we have two and are expecting a third. I think now that SD23 is grown, and not mine, he doesn't include her anymore. I'm not sure if this answer is only for my benefit, or if he would say this even when alone. If I were to answer, I would say we have 2, expecting a third, but he already has 3.
He says 4, our shared kids. I have never heard him include adult skids. Wouldn't care if he did. After 20 years, the jealousy & resentment toward skids and BM just kinda dissipates. I did used to be like rainbow bright (OP) early on in our relationship though. Not gonna lie. Hated 'em.
I always say 1! bc we have 1 BS! And he has 2 sons from previous marriage but they are not my kids and to me my family is my DH and DS. Even if that sounds messed up, that's my family and who I am concerned about at the end of the day!
Wait, your husband includes
Wait, your husband includes your kid but leaves out his own??? :? :jawdrop:
Yes he does. And I prefer it
Yes he does. And I prefer it that way (yes i know that's mean, but its true). Of course when i'm not around he will then include his kids in the count.
DH includes my DD along with
DH includes my DD along with his kids.
I say 3 sons and 3
I say 3 sons and 3 stepdaughters, fulltime. I want them to understand the extent of my stipulating "step"
Not shooting you, totally
Not shooting you, totally understand.
I wouldn't want anyone to think I spawned my stepdaughters
When someone would ask I
When someone would ask I "USED TO" say five but "NOW" I just say I have two. I have a bd and bs and dh has three. Years back I once answered someone and said five, ss didn't like it and complained to dh. Today we are estranged from ss and msd. I do not claim them in any way, shape, or form. I have 2 kids and dh has 3. I simply answer two. DH can speak for himself.
If I am asked how may grand kids, I say five (1 bgd11, 1 bgs2, 3 sgs's 6, 4, 2mos). I claim the sgs's from osd28 that we have a relationship with. I do not claim children of estranged msd. I have never even seen them.
When we are together and
When we are together and people ask, we say we have two and are expecting a third. I think now that SD23 is grown, and not mine, he doesn't include her anymore. I'm not sure if this answer is only for my benefit, or if he would say this even when alone. If I were to answer, I would say we have 2, expecting a third, but he already has 3.
I usually answer, "WE have
I usually answer, "WE have one together." and leave it at that... Idk what he says.
He says 4, our shared kids. I
He says 4, our shared kids. I have never heard him include adult skids. Wouldn't care if he did. After 20 years, the jealousy & resentment toward skids and BM just kinda dissipates. I did used to be like rainbow bright (OP) early on in our relationship though. Not gonna lie. Hated 'em.
My DH husband has NEVER owned
My DH husband has NEVER owned up to my BSons EVER.
He just says he has 4 kids, which is true and I just say I have 3 sons and 3 stepdaughters.
We both say one. The Skid is
We both say one. The Skid is an only child in our home.
I always say 1! bc we have 1
I always say 1! bc we have 1 BS! And he has 2 sons from previous marriage but they are not my kids and to me my family is my DH and DS. Even if that sounds messed up, that's my family and who I am concerned about at the end of the day!