Hello,
I just wanted to see if anyone had any advice as to how I should feel about this, or what they would do. Thank you for any input.

I have been married to DH about 4 months, he has two 8 year boys from a relationship that lasted about 3-5 months. The BM has full custody and always has. He has visitation every other weekend for 2 days (4 days a month total). I don't know how much information is relevant...

BM is CRAZY. When I first met her (I had just started dating current DH) she came up to me and said she is the boys mother and it's not my place to act like their mother because that's her job (I only had them over at my house once prior), nevermind I told DH before I met her I have no interest in playing "mom" to his kids.

DH and her haven't even tried reconciliation for 5 years, which didn't work. She has been dating a man for the last 2 years.
Before I met her, she sent DH text messages saying she was the one who was supposed to be with him, and how could he do this to her. I am serious she is nuts!! When she finally calmed down about him dating someone she decided to start speaking badly about him and me. Then we announced our marriage. She went ballistic. Out of nowhere his boys do not want to come over to visit (he told them too bad).

Then she found out I am pregnant. Now it's even worse. Those kids, who were somewhat polite before, have turned.
They come over, trash my home and if I ask them to pick up their mess, they ask, "why" and then pick up part of it, if at all. They fight each other and SCREAM at each other, I've asked them to stop the screaming, they don't. They harass my pets, I have asked them to stop, they don't. They break my things, I have told to not to touch things unless they ask me, THEY DON'T LISTEN TO THIS AT ALL. They won't wash their hands after using the bathroom unless they are told to, then I have to count how many seconds were they washing... okay 5 seconds, then I have to tell them to do it again and use soap!! The other day all of us were crossing a parking lot and a car was coming, one of the boys didn't see us all stop and wait for a car to go by so I yelled for him to stop, twice. His father finally yelled and he stopped, almost getting hit.
But the worst thing? They are disgusting. They stick their hands in their pants. Seriously. ALL. THE. TIME. And do NOT cover their cough, sneeze, etc. I have to continually ask them to wash their hands when I actually see them do these things, and what do they say? "WHY?!"

So here's my issue. I love DH, he's a great guy, unless it has something to do with his kids. I can't say anything negative about them or he gets pissed. I just want him to understand where I am coming from! These kids are rude to me as well, not to mention my home (he moved in with me).
Now, I am 39 weeks pregnant. I am scheduled for a C-Section in one week. We go home Valentines Day. Guess who is supposed to visit?

I asked him 2 weeks ago if BM can just keep them that weekend (it's our first days home with a newborn!) He said that was fine. Then last week he said he'd ask his mom to babysit that weekend, and she said she can probably do it Valentines Day night, but not for sure.
So I asked him what is going to happen if she can't watch them.
And he said HE IS GOING TO GET A HOTEL ROOM WITH THEM FOR THOSE DAYS.
Yes, the first 2 days home after a c-section with a newborn, and because I do not want his kids there those days (their behavior and germs), he would rent a hotel room to stay with them.

Maybe it's my hormones. Maybe I am very selfish. But this is really upsetting to me.
I do not have anyone else to help me those days.
He thinks I'm making him chose between myself and his kids.
I didn't say anything about him having to choose. I just told him I am angry he's leaving to be with them when I feel I need him most.

Please give me some feedback. My brain is totally shutdown with all the other baby stuff I have to deal with.
Thank you.