DH thinks we have a money tree for Adult skids

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Do you feel when it comes to DH/DW and Skids...your partner thinks money grows on trees? Yet, when it comes to your needs/wants or as couple...your needs/ wants...you are felt to believe you are unreasonable. I am so sick of being the DIY bitch...to cut cost...only to piss the savings on adult skids.

Sounds like you need to

Sounds like you need to separate your finances.

My step-demon would enroll in

My step-demon would enroll in classes at the local JC and would either get all F's or withdraw from all of her classes. She has done this 6 times! This was part of the scam she pulled in order for daddy to continue to pay for her car, her gas, her insurance and all of her parking tickets and toll evasion penalties :jawdrop: The deal was as long as the b!tch was "enrolled" in classes that daddy would continue to make the car payments on the brand new $30,000 car that he bought for her. I guess being enrolled in classes was enough in her mind as DH never said she had to pass any of them. :? He would ask her how school was going, she would lie and by the time finals came around, princess would tell daddy some sob story as to why she had to drop her classes. My foolish DH fell for every story/lie and would continue to pay for everything while the b!tch would re-enroll in classes she never intended on attending. So now DH was paying for the car and the classes so she could keep the car :O This was a big, elaborate scam. She is nothing but a lying, manipulative criminal.
Your SD can get student loans if she wants to try college again. If she does this hopefully daddy won't get stuck paying back thousands for the loans. Of course in the case of our princess brat, daddy paid off the thousands upon thousands of loans that she took out. Funny, why did she need loans if daddy was already paying for her classes? I call this double-dipping. Now I know how princess got all of her designer clothes, shoes and handbags. She never wears the same thing twice and will only wear high end designer garments. :sick: Think about it, thousands of dollars of student loans and not one completed class. What a waste. It is because of our experience with the step-demon that I believe that your SD should pay for her own schooling.
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By the way, this was a few years before we got married. DH wouldn't dream of giving his adult brat a red cent these days. The Bank of Daddy has closed his doors forever.

Oh my god yes; I don't know

Oh my god yes; I don't know how our relationship would survive if he still engaged in this type of behavior. You have a great idea, paying her college up front. That's what he did with me. I went back to school in fall 2009 and I just graduated in May. He paid as I went; no need for loans. I do wonder though, if he did pay for it up front for princesses education, would she still have obtained the loans? After all, she can only wear designer clothes and carry designer handbags.

It isn't "Just you" ... I

It isn't "Just you" ... I feel resentment every year around this time. My SO's adult kids have been brought up with a silver spoon in their mouths and never had to work a lick until they were completely finished with college. The skids net worth due to ex's family's money/trust) is MORE than my SO's!!! Plus, they are both working full time at high-paying jobs.

Yet SD23 had the audacity to ask her father for expensive electronic and clothing gifts. As soon as she left, he immediately went on line and bought them for her.

I don't say anything because it's not my business and our finances are separate. It's his money and he can do what he wants with it.

But I still resent it. Especially because I would like to hire someone to do some of the housecleaning around here, but he doesn't want to split the cost with me/meaning he's too cheap to spend the money. I certainly won't pay it all myself.

I'll be damned if I keep everything sparkling clean around here. To his credit, he helps out with housekeeping but it's half-assed. Well, half-assed it will stay.

That's why I get royally irritated when he jumps into action to buy his Adult DD whatever she asks for. Now THAT he has no second thoughts about expense!

Yep. Absolutely no more money

Yep. Absolutely no more money on adult anything. That is the POINT of being an adult! Every time they ask for money, you ask them back for it. They will not be there when you are old and broke, trust me on that one! I see it everyday. Blood is thicker than water!

DH and I started off with

DH and I started off with separate accounts (thank goodness!) but for years DH placed a certain amount of money in SD's account each and every month. This went on for a long time after SD graduated from college, while DH was making 'poverty' wages and SD was making far more than DH. Of course, because we had separate accounts his finances were never discussed with me. So what was the end result? DH was not contributing to a 'nest egg'. He now lives entirely off of Social Security. His car bit the dust and now he lacks the funds to get a newer, reliable vehicle.

And I am sure your DH's

And I am sure your DH's generous daughter is stepping up to buy her dad a new car, right? That's the thing ... for most of these entitled "kids" the generosity only flows one way - to them!

Hell no! Do you think he'd

Hell no! Do you think he'd want his princess to worry her entitled little head? He's too proud to have mentioned it to her. And besides, I've never had the opportunity to see SD pay for anything.

This is exactly why, even

This is exactly why, even though we have separate accounts, I believe I have a say in what my DH does with his money. Not in everyday, little things but as far as handing over big chunks of it to helpless SD22.

I know that I am the one building the bulk of our retirement, I am the one making sure we get the house paid off in a decent amount of time, I am the one who is big on DIY to save us money. I am the one who is, and will be, there for him.

He could, I suppose, do it behind my back but he does not like to depend on me for money or "owe" me so he does make sure he has savings and that he contributes what he can to the household. That pretty much leaves SD on her own, or should I say, with BM. And SD living with BM probably helps because there is no way he would give SD a penny if he thought it was going to BM.

dhs daughters are in their

dhs daughters are in their mid twenties and still looking for cash. the bm wont help very much to the point of saying she contributes is a joke. dh sends them money. one sd is even living w a lover and dh still sends her money. on top of this is bil who wont work or look for a job and sil too crazy to work due to too many drugs ruining her. add to this is mil and fil needing money. dh is the money tree and everyone is looking for money. finally i come last in everything.dh dumps thousands of dollars to support his family. i am lucky if i get a lump of coal after its all over.