I don't think I'll ever like me Skids
I will admit here on this site, in a safe enviromment how I really feel. Here goes: his children, SD16 and SS12 are over weight, dirty, smelly (they don't bath unless told to, and NEVER brush their teeth) rude, over indulged, self center children. Just the site of them makes me cringe......
SD16, eats non stop, complains constantly about being bored when we have TVs in every room, 2 PS3's, Xbox 360, Ipods, Iphones, Computers, swimming pool, trampoline, interupts conversations between everyone, torments her younger brother to the point of BM and DH are looking into counseling for her sibling rivalry (yes, it's that bad). SS12 has ADHD and DH amd BM forget to give him his pills, won't blow his nose, continuously picks and wipes his fingers all over my furniture, doesn't know how to wipe himself after having a bowel movement and many times doesn't make it to the bathroom in time so he (at 12) still poops his pants, has the same eating habits of his sister. They both demand everything and for some reason DH gives in as does BM.
Their grandparents have had enough and tried to talk to my DH, but he just doesn't seem to listen. I've tried talking calmly to my DH but he doesn't seem to hear what's being said.
I've dissengaged......it's helped me.....but now what? do I live the rest of my life with me DH feeling the way I do about his kids? Do I move on? Will this ever get any better? :?
It will NOT get better UNLESS
It will NOT get better UNLESS DH gets his head out of his backside and SEES the problems that are right in front of his face.
From experience, and from being on this site, I have learned that 99% of the time these situations don't work out because the DH/SO and the SM are not on the same page and are not a united front when it comes to skids/bm. One sees the problems, usually the SM, and the dh/so has their head in the sand. And because of that everyone suffers.
That's just damn nasty and
That's just damn nasty and they would not be welcome in my house until they had Human Hygiene habits. I can see why you don't like them and they are old enough to not like without anyone saying 'oh they are just kids'. Lol Nasty little suckers.. Not their fault they are self-centered and entitled as they've been allowed and molded in that way. But that's not your issue to deal with so good for you for Disengaging. You may have to do what I do-- a level of disengagement BUT still maintain control in your home. As in when SS9 is here, I don't fool with him too much BUT I make sure he understands and follows the rules of this home and he cannot treat it casually as he does at with BM. DH wouldn't enforce anything -cleaning up after himself, brushing teeth or showering--or wiping his butt, unless I prompt him too. He has made strides so I'll give him credit for that. But he's inconsistent and SS takes full advantage of any lapse unless I'm around.
If your DH doesn't want to do anything about it, great--he can see them at a Hotel because you won't leave your house for them to destroy it while DH sits there in a stupor. I don't see how you can take that. I get shivers just thinking about it!!