There's always been something odd between my BS9 and SS12. Some type of tension that I couldn't explain. Well, a few weeks ago it was all made very clear.
My BS9 is a very athletic boy. Any sport he tries he can do fairly well. That's all due to his dad, ex military, heavy believer in working out. BS9 still gets up at 5:45 every morning to do his push ups, sit ups, and jogging in place for a few minutes because it's "Better than coffee"
So the two oldest skids were over for the weekend, and were playing outside on the trampoline. I was in the kitchen cooking and could see everything from the window. My BS9 went out there to play with the soccer ball and I had an eagle eye on all three. Keep in mind, I have already been told by the skids that I am not their mother and they do not have to listen to me, plus I have been told by DH that when it comes to discipline it's best just to let him handle it so their BM doesn't fly off the handle. So ok.
I saw it all begin. I saw SS12 telling SS9 something and SS9 saying no. I couldn't hear what was being said but I knew the look on their faces wasn't a good look. Since I've been accused of lyeing before I whipped out my phone and recorded the entire thing.
SS12 pushed SS9 down onto his back on the trampoline, then put his knee into SS9's chest and wouldn't let him move. SS12 is a big boy. Bigger than my BS14, also SS9 is so tiny due to all the meds his mother has him on. So SS9 was struggling to get from under SS12 who was now lauphing at his brothers red face and mad expression.
Here comes BS9, getting on the trampoline and telling SS12 something. He gives him a dirty look, pushes him back and bounces a little bit with his knee still on SS9's chest. I was now on my way out there when BS9 gets up, says "oh yeah" and begins jumping. Closer and closer to SS12. He then jumped and kicked SS12 in his face who then falls off SS9. All my BS love WWE. Before SS12 realizes what just happend BS9 lands an elbow to his gut and smacks him in the face. By now SS9 has scurried off the trampoline and is trying to catch his breath again.
I make BS9 get off and ask what happened. SS9 started talking but was interrupted by SS12 who said yeah they decided to gang up on me and BS9 was being mean.
"Ok, I'm going to get your dad and he can straited this out. I let both boys talk to DH and of course SS12 pulls out the water works (literally, you'd think someone just ran over his puppy) telling his dad how SS9 and BS9 were ganging up on him and pulling wrestling moves on him and blah blah blah.
SS9 isn't good at explaining things, again due to all the meds. So DH asked for BS9 to come in there and apologise and wanted him grounded for a while for fighting. I quickly said no no, sit down next to SS12, there's something I'd like both of you to see. I played them my video. SS12 began crying more cause I recorded it and now he was caught, DH felt stupid for believing it. I told him then this happens more often than you think. So from now on, I'm not going to tell you what I saw, I'm just going to record it and show you.
Needless to say, SS12 got the punishment and a bit more. And now thankfully the rose color lenses are finally starting to clear up.
Let me just say, I do not think fighting is ok, but I have also told my kids that you do not let someone bully you. You stand up for yourself, and if you see a small person getting bullied you stand up for them too.