Everything has been filed and thanks to the prenups we had there's nothing else he can demand from me. I still have had no contact with him, nor do I want to. All I need him to do is sign the papers.
There is one hiccup. The car. When I bought my car EH cosigned for me. It has now been an uphill battle. He refuses to sign papers stating I can trade in the car and get a cheaper one under my name only. I'm still rebuilding my credit so refinancing has been difficult to find. I'm tempted to save up some money, go get a cheap used car and just let my shiny baby go back. He's threatened several times that he will get a tow truck to come haul off my car and turn it in himself. How dumb can this man be?
I responded to his email as nicely as I could.
EH, you are a cosigner, not the owner. Unless I am 90 days past due on my car note and am in danger or repossesion there is nothing for you to do with this car. Please stop threatening to take my car away. The note is paid, on time every month, the insurance is up to date, and it gets regular maintenance. Now please, leave me alone.
Oh but no, he has to keep on. I'm not signing anything saying I give permission for you to trade it in.
Ok, fine I really don't care, you should be thanking me for raising your credit while I pay off my car.
I called the finance company and they said if I take possesion of it I can turn it over to them.
Ok, well you realize as the cosigner it would effect your credit more negativly than it would effect mine.
I don't care, I'll file for backruptcy.
Well, you got to do what you got to do.
I stopped responding to anything after that. I'm just exhausted from all of this.
I have also heard from Inbred. Seems he tried to crawl back to her a day after he moved out. Telling her that I had physically abused his dPPP and SS7. I don't know if she believed him, it did not sound as if she did but with this woman I never take what she says at face value. I did however tell her this.
"I have children of my own, I would never hit another persons child. But if I had, and he not only stayed with me but allowed it to go on, then that right there should prove to you what kind of a father he is. You can ask your kids, I know they did not like me but I never touched them. I guarentee you, as soon as he finds another woman he can pawn his kids off too while on his weekends, he will become FOTY again, only because she will be there to take care of them while he sits on his ass playing Xbox or magic the gathering all damn day. That is the abuse he speaks of, I did not mother your children, I did not hover and do what he should have been doing."
No visits from police or CPS so I am guessing she didn't believe him.
I finally swept through every room in the house over the last few days and have gotten everything that belonged to him out. I'm about to start repainting and putting in some new floors. I'm kinda excited to redo my house. I've also been excersising every day and starting to feel like the me I was before we ever met. My children seem to be handling it very well too. I was nervous about that, the two youngest seemed to really be attacted to him but even the kids seem more relaxed now that he's not there. My poor furbabies though. They are very confused. I can see them looking for him, smelling for him and watching the door every time there is a noise outside. In time though, I just coddle them a little more now. I'm going back to my last name. I just can't wait for this to be over, completely over. Since we have no kids together, we should never have to see each other again, but if we should ever run into each other; I'm always carrying my 9m