How much is normal?
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I posted in general earlier, didn't see this forum...bu this is probably where it should be. Just curious as I post this from the other side...as a BM, how much do I let the husband criticize and bash my kids? Some things are warranted and I agree...but do I need to keep heairing about it over and over? Most things are him picking and looking and trying to find ways to point out all my kids faults. I don't do that with his. honestly, I am just about over his yelling at me every time one does something he doesn't agree with. So, am I overreacting? How much do I take before telling him to hit the road and ending this second marriage? If I need to see it from his point of view, help me see that. I am emotionally worn out.
I read your other post in
I read your other post in which you talked about the fact that your 21 year old daughter lives with you and your DH with her young baby. This is a lot to expect your partner to deal with - and most step parents might draw the line at this. Your daughter is an adult now, and might be expected by your husband to make her own living arrangements rather than move in with you.
He was probably looking forward to some alone time with you once your children were all grown up and now doesn't have it - try and see this from his point of view. Many step parents have strained relationships with their SKIDs but deal with this for the sake of the love they bear their partner/spouse. Maybe if you discuss with your husband what you expect from your daughter in the long term - eg to eventually move out and get a job. Remember this is a step parents site, and most of us are here because we are under stress because of step situations. We look for some light at the end of the tunnel - and what this means in practice is that step kids move out and make their own life. Your daughter isn't doing this and your husband is probably finding this very hard to cope with and taking it out on her.