There is nothing wrong with feeling more connected to a adopted child than a skid. You can feel connected to any child if they treat you with respect, unlike the skids. If you adopt dont feel bad for treating the child with more love than skid. If they complain try to explain about respect maybe. If they see how to get the positive attention maybe they will follow in suit. Only time will tell.
Hope this helps.

The thing with adoption is that the child has no parents and YOU would become their parent. I know plenty of people who have adopted and there is no question that their adopted children ARE THEIR children. There are differences between adoption and steps. Stepkids have had other parents/people raise them whereas only you and your wife would be raising the adopted child. Adopted children don't come with all the baggage steps come with- cs, visitation, exes, entitlement issues, jealousy, etc. Plus it prob is easier to love an adopted child as your own more than you would a step because of all the issues a step brings. There really is no comparison the only similarity between steps and adopted children are that neither have your DNA. So I really see it as what would you do if you DID have a kid with your genes? Would they still get the bigger room? Prob becausethey live their fulltime. Are you going to favor your kid over a step- probably. Same with an adopted child. Because once you adopt, that child IS yours. So stop thinking of your future kid as an 'adopted' kid and start thinking of it as 'your' kid. What would you do?

No way, I would certainly feel closer to my adopted child. Its my child. Skids are not mine.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. My fiance and I have his 3 year old daughter full time and would like another child but I refuse to get pregnant. Adoption is also what we are looking into as I just would rather take care of a child already on this earth than make my own. I also don't think it's unreasonable to give the adopted child a bigger room considering that child will be there full time, unlike skids. Some people just cannot bond with their skids for whatever reason and especially if you don't see them full time so you definitely will end up forming a stronger bond with your adopted child. Good luck and don't feel guilty!