Welcome to steptalk-you can say whatever you like here (within reason!) and it isn't wrong, or selfish to feel how you feel. We have all been good actresses too. You haven't given any concrete reasons for your feelings about your SDs- but I sense your SO wouldn't want you to tell him either- they are his princesses after all.
You did not give birth to these girls, you had no part in their upbringing- although you don't say how long you have known him.

I think your feeling is normal...maybe because I feel the same way. There are many times that I wish SSs did not exist and sometimes I think they shouldn't exist, because BM is a terrible mom and DH should have known better. Also, he thought having kids would "fix" his marriage, which he definitely should have known better on.

I met my SSs when they were 8, almost 9. They weren't interesting or fun. They were needy and demanding. Now, they're moody and entitled. It's difficult to like someone else's kids when they aren't taught to be likeable people and my SSs have not been taught that. Sometimes we have fun, but I feel like that only happens when I plan something fun or create some activity for them.

I just got a big shipment of my Christmas ornaments from my parents' house. DH says to me, "I'm concerned because you're so possessive of your things." What he means is, I'm concerned because my kids will probably break one of your ornaments and you'll be upset. They are on the 6th grade, but god forbid they be told to not touch something or not to rough house in the living room. I feel like I learned that lesson when I was 3 years old. If they do break something, I'll have to apologize to them, so they won't feel bad. I can guarantee that if I were to break something of theirs, I'd have to not only apologize profusely, but also replace whatever I broke. One of them cracked the corner of the other one's phone case. It was still useable, but he cried and demanded a replacement.

Instead, I'll just lock away anything breakable in my own house because poor, sensitive little SSs shouldn't be expected to act their age. At moments like these, I do wish my SSs didn't exist.

I have two. I like the younger one. He's a good kid with a good heart. Can't stand the older one. Devious, disrespectful, dirty, entitled, rude and a bully to his brother. Only talks to me when he wants something, usually food. My husband thinks I love them both. Scared that one day my true feelings about the older one will come out. I dread him coming over.

I TOTALLY wish my disgusting POS SS32 did not exist. And probably most of the universe feels that way also. DH and BM had been divorced for years when they had a ONS encounter that produced the disgusting SS. Both were single (probably desperate and horny) so no cheating was involved. She should have given him a blow job.

SS was referred to his first in patient psychiatric stay at age FIVE. He was just born "bad". BM's father although a very accomplished doctor and pillar of the community was almost certainly bi-polar. BM suffered from extreme clinical depression in the days before current meds were available. SS is also just flawed.

SS has been to multiple rehabs - everything from the normal stuff to boot camps to 3 1/2 years in juvie for some horrid crime. He's beaten up so many people ranging from his own parents to elderly strangers on the street. He is the most disgusting person I've ever met.

But now he literally does not exist in my world. And fortunately my DH does not pressure me to change that. DH is free to see that ahole when he wants. Just keep me out of it.

I just would never pick either SD as someone I would want to be friends with. The younger one was cute and likeable until about 10 or 11. Then she became moody and knows more about life than I ever will. The older one talks non-stop about herself. They’re legally adults but hopeless. Having them not live here makes it tolerable in small doses to spend time with them. When they were 14 - 18, I was in complete despair. They were insufferable and got zero parenting from either bio.

all normal feelings.... and the reason being... the way our partners are around their little snowflake princesses....

without the children we are number one but as soon as the children or Exwife snaps their fingers, we are zero and they are number one, this is the issue. We all have great guys without the children thus it's natural to wish the brats gone....

What helps for me, I disengaged, not only from his brat but also from him when he's with his brat, if he chooses to entertain her and please her, I please myself, with no cooking, no cleaning nothing, I go out and enjoy my time, well I like being on my own, I can sit in a restaurant with a good book for hours, reading, eating and watching people and their interactions, I silence my phone and ignore the 20 messages asking where are you, when will you be back, what are you doing.. sorry Sir if I was a priority in your life and if you did not forget about me as soon as your brat called, I would've shared my life with you, you made the choice to cut me out for the sake of your brat, now live with it.

Normally I would've accepted SO being late cause his daughter had a crisis, normally I would've changed my plans to suit him, after the break up and almost back together, I do not accept any off it, If you tell me I'll pick you up 2 o'clock and you are not there 5 past, I leave without you and you will be ignored, If we have plans to do something and Aergia finds out - cause he always over shared with her and she will have a crisis... then I leave without him and I keep to my plans, Currently SO shares nothing with her, cause he realized when he tells her we are going away for the day, she has a crisis immediately after they wake up..... if he tells her staying at home, there's no crisis what so ever.. thus he stopped sharing with her, which is a good thing, she's a child and not part of our relationship, he does not have to share our stuff with her,

Most people don't dislike someone without good reason. I went into the relationship with my DH with warm intentions towards his daughters, but over the years they have trampled and spat on my heart with gusto. I now loathe and detest them, with good reason. I don't bother acting as though I like them and haven't for many years. Civility is what they get when they visit.

I don't like my DH's daughters either!!!!!!!!!!!

That doesn't make you evil. At. All. You can't just magically like someone, its not some kind of instant love like people think it should be, and I think a LOT of stepparents end up just tolerating instead of liking. So THAT is not one bit evil!

I happen to have a wonderful relationship with the Skids (most days, lol, then there are other days where they're the spawn of satan herself... (BM...)) But even I sometimes have days where I really wish I could just have my DH, and that the kids weren't a thing and for f***s sake, BM wasn't a thing. So that's not evil either. Because some days it really would be SO MUCH BETTER if it could just be you and DH and all this extra stress and drama wasn't there. Not to mention the fact a lot of us are raising the Skids full time, which has it's own set of pressures.

So you're not evil. And there's probably a reason behind your dislike anyways. Just because they're a spawn of DH doesn't mean you have this magic love.

I don't particularly like my SD either. I didnt start out disliking her. Her choices, her actions, what she says make her a particularly unlikable person.

You are not forced to like nasty people because they are "family".

After joining this site I’m happy to know that there are people out there who feel the same as me, even though I got a fair amount of harsh comments on my rant out my 4yo SS (he’s only 4! And such) but he is the most disrespectful, rude and filthy little four year old I’ve ever met! With no signs of changing!
I think it’s an unrealistic expectation that we will automatically love our SC, one I deluded myself into. I actually wanted to be with a man with kids so he would understand what it’s like. Boy did that backfire!! We didn’t choose these kids and they didn’t choose us. And although I love DH. I hate his child and hate how he thinks the sun rises and falls with him and he can do no wrong. And it terrifies me to think that I may feel this way everyday for the rest of my life, dreading his impending arrival...
I didn’t think lying little conniving four year olds existed.. but yes, yes they do.