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Submitted by Tiger7 on Sat, 11/27/2021 - 8:17am

SD21 has covid. The one who refused to get vaxxed cause she didn't want to be told what to do. DH was at her house the day before we found out. As a result, per health dept, we had to quarantine which meant I had to cancel Thanksgiving dinner with my kids. My oldest lives in another state and traveled 10 hrs to be here. I had also spent a ton of money on food. DH and I feel fine...we're getting tested on Sun.  SD21 and her live in BF both are positive but feel ok. Her kids, 1 and almost 3, tested negative so far. I'm pissed at myself for letting my guard down!

I'm back

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Tue, 11/16/2021 - 2:55pm

Hi all.  I last posted April 2019. Oldest SD is now 21 with 2 kids (1 and almost 3). She is actually doing better but is still very immature. She is very emotionally needy with her dad. They talk/text throughout the day....EVERY day. I still disengage when I need to.  Holidays are coming and I'm starting to feel anxious abt some things so I thought I'd get back on this forum. There's so much support here which was very helpful before and I appreciate you all. Will leave it at that for now.  Thx in advance for the much needed advice and support I know I'll need.

Need support and advice

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Fri, 04/26/2019 - 7:37pm

Back again after a fews months.  Husband and I are enjoying these first 8 months of our new marriage.  SD19 is still a hot mess - worse than before.  Her beautiful daughter is now 3 months old.  We love her to pieces.  SD19 is still with that bum bf.  He doesnt work still; she got a job but its minimum wage and PT...at least working. Here are the highlights:

Been gone for a few months

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Wed, 10/03/2018 - 5:59pm

I had a whirlwind summer.  Laid off one job, took July off, started new job Aug 1st and got married Aug 26th. I love, love, love my husband but sad to say his 2 daughters are still causing angst.  The 18 yr old is pregnant and due in Feb. Bf cheats on her, keeps reinfecting her with STDs (she doesn't know we know that part), she has no job, is on welfare, bf is a bum, etc.  She is clearly not equipped to be a mom. She needs help...not just therapy but a life coach.  I see lots of issues coming down the road.   Just needed to unload that tonight.  Thx

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Wed, 06/13/2018 - 5:51pm

Almost forgot this - so the child support order has finally been changed.  When SO got his divorce (finally), the judge put in an order for cs reduction since SO is carrying his kids on his medical insurance.  This took months of revisions and arguing with child support enforcement for the order to finally go thru.  SO's support is going down quite a bit (more than he requested) and they told him....get this....that BM is going to be paying something or making up the difference in what they're reducing.  Something like that.....lol.  He went to the enforcement office and that's what they to

SD18 IS now pregnant

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Wed, 06/13/2018 - 4:06pm

This past Sat, his 2 sisters and my 2 daughters and daughter's BF were at our house.  We were eating when SD18 texted me to have SO call her.  (He didn't have his phone on him).  He started to get up and I said, why don't you finish your food first, so he did.  I texted her back a few mins later and said he would call her shortly.  She then called my phone right after.  He talked to her in another room.  When he came back, she had then texted both of us a picture of an emergency room discharge paper with her name on it.  She went for abdominal pain and it said she was pregnant.  She also se

I feel like I'm about to weaken - need advice

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Tue, 06/05/2018 - 5:01pm

Neither SO nor I have spoken to SD18 since she hung up on me.  She texted her father right after that calling me names and accusing him of loving me more than her.  I didn't even have to say anything as he saw it for the emotional blackmail it was.  He continues to text her in an attempt to check on her and make sure she's ok but she doesn't answer.  I told him she won't reach out again until the end of the month when she needs something cause her food stamps and money from social services run out.

SD18 just hung up on me

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Wed, 05/30/2018 - 6:56pm

She wants to come over this weekend to do laundry and I said no.  She asked why.  I said cause one I don't trust you and two, because I don't like when people lie to me. 

SD:  I didn't lie to you

Me:  save it.  I've given you plenty of chances and you continue to bite me in the a$$   (I'm raising my voice by now)

SD:   I didn't lie.  Stop yelling at me, you're not my mother

Me:  Damn right I'm not your mother.  I've given you more respect than your mother ever did.

Short update

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Wed, 05/30/2018 - 11:53am

Thanks for all the responses to my last blog.  The holiday weekend was busy and then I had surgery yesterday.  I'm home and feeling pretty good.  I re-read that last blog and futurobrillante posed some good questions.  i did answer yes to all those questions and I feel good about my relationship and upcoming wedding.  This morning SO told me that both BM1 and SD18 were texting him yesterday - BM1 wanted answers to questions about SD16's savings acct money (the one SO set up for her) and SD18 wanted him to pick her up and take her to her BMs house to get some of her stuff.  He told them both

Wedding day is coming & I'm having thoughts

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Fri, 05/25/2018 - 9:21am

SO spoke to BM2 last night - SS10 is acting up.  He took the call downstairs while I was up in our bedroom; he relayed the conversations with both BM2 and SS to me.  Whenever SS acts up, he gets on him pretty hard (this is by face time video cause they live across country from us).  BM2 also told him she & her DH  might be divorcing and supposedly some of their issues are attributed to SS's behavior.  They also might not be coming to our wedding in Aug.  I listened to SO without interrupting.  When he was done, I told him the following observations that I have:

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