Almost forgot this - so the child support order has finally been changed.  When SO got his divorce (finally), the judge put in an order for cs reduction since SO is carrying his kids on his medical insurance.  This took months of revisions and arguing with child support enforcement for the order to finally go thru.  SO's support is going down quite a bit (more than he requested) and they told him....get this....that BM is going to be paying something or making up the difference in what they're reducing.  Something like that.....lol.  He went to the enforcement office and that's what they told him - he doesn't have it in writing yet.    We also found out, through all this...that she actually has a real job.  Its at a grocery store, so its probably part time.  Oh - just thought of this.....they probably also found out she is actually working - I'm sure she would not volunteer that info - so maybe they're going to reduce her support because she now has income.  All I know is that when she finds out, she is going to be soooo pissed.  I don't feel bad though since she was still getting support for SD18 who hasn't lived with her since last year.  Karma, baby!