So in my last entry SS12 pushed S5 into a glass table. He's okay, the knot on his head is finally going down.
BUT... stuff has been happening since.
SS continues to wet the bed. I let him use the washing machine himself to get it done and make sure he cleans it out after if he needs to.
He told DH his mom gives him a bucket and soap and makes him go outside to wash his wet cloths and bed clothes every morning. I don't believe him.
He also told DH that BM makes him and his sisters clean the whole house while the babysitter sleeps in a back room. 1. He's "helped" me clean before. It's like he's never picked up cleaning supplies in his life. He can't even make his own bed. 2. His sisters are as young and our S and D, so there's no way she asks this of them while a babysitter sleeps in the house.
BM sent DH an e-mail Friday saying that SS had a camp for school that he's supposed to attend on MONDAY. Bring him back Sunday. No please, no I'm sorry it's last minute, just have him home by...
So DH e-mails her says last minutes changes can't work, we are busy. he gave her the address and said she is more than welcome to come pick him up early if need be, but he will not be making the drive.
He heard nothing back at all.
Then SS phone starts blowing up all weekend but he won't share the details with DH. He tells him that BM says his school camp actually starts next week.
She continues to call, sometimes apparently giving him the business and sometimes to be sweet and say I miss you.
So last night he gets a call, stays in his room for about an hour and comes out with tears in his eyes. When DH asks what's up he bursts into tears and says his Great Grandmother died. So we all dote on him, give him sympathy of course. A Few hours later on ask when he needs to go home for the funeral. To which he responds "oh umm, it's next month. They're gonna wait for it." I suggest to DH that he call BM so that SS won't miss saying goodbye to his loved one. I believe saying goodbye is important as I didn't get to with mine.
SS looks at DH and says hey can i talk to you in my room? DH says sure, so they go. Turns out SS LIED about his grandmother dying. He freaked out when I suggested we call BM to find out the dates and decided to come clean.
He said it was the first thing that came to mind, and told DH he lies a lot and doesn't know why he does it. This is a BIG lie right?? Does he need some serious psychiatric help or am I overreacting?
Today we heard a loud thud and S5 starts crying. When we rushed to see what happened SS is screaming "It wasn't me! He was hanging on me and I just pushed him aside. When S calmed down he said SS snatched his book from his hands so S tried to get it back by hanging on his leg. SS threw him into the door frame and he hit his head. He's got another knot on the other side of his head now to match the first one. DH asked SS who continued to deny it. but then found the book thrown under SS bed. Yes S5 should've come to us when SS took his book and didn't, but SS reaction was awful.
He is really concerning me. DH and i talked about it. He agrees that he needs at least a psychiatric evaluation. In the least he's learning bad behavior from his mother. At the most, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
EDIT: Guess who's showing up unannounced at our door to pick up SS.
DH is now upset that she is here, even though he sent her the e-mail with our address welcoming her to come pick him up. He must've thought she wouldn't come since she never has before. She didn't give any notice or say why, just called SS saying she's 15 minutes away. We will see what happens...