I had a few thoughts yesterday about BM and let's face it 'impure' thoughts tend to come up when I think about BM. I was just wonder your thoughts on my thoughts. lol

First thought

BM emailed me yesterday for the first time in over a year. It was an okay e-mail not overly friendly but not mean. I e-mailed her back and I wasn't (really) mean just a little suggestive :)She 'suggested' a place to take the sKids over the summer - after talking about it at the school with FDH I guess she understood that I would be taking the boys out of the house for social interaction. The place was already on my list, so I e-mailed her my list and told her that I had a very busy summer planned for them. - no response yet. Heaven forbid that SM be on top of things I guess.

Any way that got me thinking would it be better for me to have a false friendship with BM than an honest hatred for her? I have told her that I hate her and I currently avoid her at all cost but BM is pretty dumb with a few friendly e-mail I think I could have her thinking that we were cool.

Second thought

Since it worked so well with the School/IEP would it be wrong to send the School reports to the doctors BEFORE BM goes there, so when she starts down playing what SS4 can do they may not believe her 100%? I asked FDH if he thought he should request a transcript or notes from the IEP to send to the doctors so when he asks about stuff like SS4 looking over his glasses they don't blow him off when BM says he doesn't do that. (teacher said he does) And this summer I plan to record some of our outings with video and photos (thank god for camera phones) and the thought had crossed my mind to automatically send the 'evidence' to the doctors - we sent it to one after BM lied about SS4 not playing well with others or doing good in public. Maybe it's worth sending that crap BEFORE BM goes there so they can question her on it in person, instead of after the fact.
Or would the Doctor's be annoyed by the excessive information?

Those were just some thoughts i had.