I see your perspective, but really its just a coat. If the kid wants to be cold its his right. If he gets sick his parents can deal with it. It's nothing for your to get upset over, especially if you are disengaged. It's not your responsibility to care for people who refuse to care for themselves.

Very lazy. I can't even imagine this is something to be lazy about. It's like being too lazy to make sure your child is brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

You'd think that the kid would get tired of being cold and WANT his jacket.

Sometimes things build up, and its that super duper itsy bitsy thing that sets you off, when you are unable to react to the really big things.

I wonder if the jacket is his? Kids can borrow other kid's stuff and be awfully forgetful about returning.

My YSD was famous for trading clothes with friends at a young age.. but not sensible. As in, I will trade the brand new warm winter coat for that sparkly tutu.

I am also in favor of telling not asking. I mean, sometimes it's ok to give a kid a choice as in "do you want nuggets or a burger for dinner". A specific and limited choice where both options are acceptable to the parent.

My younger brother's wife is more of the asking type and her now 4 yo just runs over her. My brother just tells the kid what is going to happen and most of the time.. it does.

I will say though my younger brother was kind of like this 10 yo. I remember my mom coming to pick him up from sports practices and he would be out there in shorts freezing his tail off. (wearing nothing but a jock strap as my dad used to say). He just didn't have the sense to dress himself.

I think if I was dating or married to someone who was a lazy parent, I'd stop caring to be honest. I'm not gonna care about someone's kid more than they do lol I probably wouldn't even be able to respect them enough to stay with them if they clearly didn't care whether or not their child was freezing cold everyday. But that's just me.

I agree, just stop caring, stop trying, regardless...you are not the parent, that is clearly established by the way the child completely ignores you; in fact, I would question your husband is an acting parent to the child either, since he has NO control over his own child. He is 10, it will get worse before it gets better; stop caring now in order to protect yourself.

Simply let it go, SS will put on his coat when he gets cold.... not when you are cold.

As a kid my mother would be all over us for wearing coats... she gets cold easily we did not.... it was very irritating till my Dad told her to lay off. I went through the same with my BS... I would get cold, put on my coat and sy... kiddo grab your coat, he would simply say it's not cold mum and I would ignore it....

Body temperatures are different with different people, I know out cold weather is not really cold for Foreigners,
58F my Dad still walks around in his summer cloths... but this time I look like an eskimo... Deigma also still walks around in his summer clothes and it's middle of the winter.... but if you touch their arms, they are burning hot.

I gave up on "get your coat" Deigma will grab one if he needs it..